Hateness

[Abhishek dhiman]

I have been in a 2 yr relationship with a girl... Gave up my everything for her...
held her hand motivated her,acted as backbone behind her to deal every situation now after 2yrs she has broken up with me and I am so much desperate to get her back...but she has started hating me....plzz tell me how to get her back and how to get rid of this hateness

[Shirley]

The good news is that if your ex-girlfriend is acting as though she truly hates you, it does mean she still has some strong feelings about you. Anger is usually a shield. If someone has been hurt or does not want to let you in right now, anger and hatred form a barrier. Those same emotions form a protective shield.

Anger is an emotion. If she is acting like she hates you, it means she is still having an emotional reaction toward you. There are true feelings behind the anger. This is a great sign when you compare it to a break up in which the ex-girlfriend does not care one way or the other. If an ex has no feelings for you and doesn't care about what you do in any way, that can be a much more difficult situation for someone who wants to get back together. When a person doesn't have any reaction to you at all and just doesn't care, all feelings may be gone. So, if you are faced with anger, you may have a better chance at getting back together.

If you want an angry ex-girlfriend back, the best thing you can do in the beginning is to give her space. Do not contact her in any way. This can be very difficult, but you need to give her time to clear her mind and get past some of the immediate anger. If you are constantly making contact with her, you may be ruining your chances to get back together. Give her some room.

During this time you should keep yourself busy. Do some thinking about what you did to cause, or contribute to, the problems. Start a new hobby. Do whatever you need to do to remain busy. Do not give in to the strong temptation to call her!

There will come a time when you can make contact, but you need to make sure you are not overbearing and don't move too fast at that time. She needs to feel that you are not pressuring her for a relationship or a reconciliation. You need to follow a plan of action that will show you how to get her back for good.

If you are saying to yourself, "all hope is lost, my ex-girlfriend hates me", take a step back and give her the time she needs. You may find that the space was great for both of you.

[Damian]

The cloud might be very dark but the fact that she hates you is a silver lining. Hate is another expression of love and that is impossible to deny. All you need to do is break your ex's resolve to not listen to you and make her see that you do deserve a second chance. Here is what you need to do to get a girl back if she hates you.

Give her a break please
If you think that by talking to her you will be able to get her to forgive you and hate you less then you couldn't be more mistaken. All you will do her is annoy her even more if you do so. For your well being and for the sake of salvaging your relationship you need to give her a break!

Ignoring her also works
You think she hates you and she thinks you are pathetic. Change all that by ignoring her completely. Don't come within her sight for a while and even when you do look right through her. If you bump into each other then all you need to do is smile and walk away.

Get your focus right
The person in your focus shouldn't be your ex at the moment. It should be you. You clearly have to focus on sorting out your problems and resolving all your past issues. One you have your focus in place your entire attitude changes.

Start living your life
You need to now show your ex that you are going to move on in your life and couldn't care a damn if she hates you. So get your groove back and start hanging out with people who seem to value you. Once she sees that you are no longer in the pathetic loser mode she will begin to hate you less.

Meet new people
Start meeting new people and make new friends. Get popular with the ladies and sweep them off their feet with your charm and humor. Get witty and see how popular you get and soon your ex will be in line vying for your attention.

Be cordial
You must never be rude to your ex. Being polite and cordial always works better as that doesn't give you a negative reaction ever.

Have the right attitude
Have the right attitude around your ex. Don't make it seem that the break up was a big deal after a point. Get casual with her, spend some time together and soon you'll see that she has let go of her hate and has rekindled her relationship with you.