I Don't Know What to Do To Make Him Fall in Love with Me?

[Caroline]

I have a question. I am in a committed relationship with someone I've been with for nearly 6 months. He shows interest in every way except that he rarely gives compliments. We have been intimate. He says he likes our chemistry and he wants the emotional part of the relationship so I do things to make sure he likes me for more then just sex. The only thing is, I don't know what to do to make him fall in love with me. I don't know how to make him "feel it". I try to express my feelings and confide in him. I don't know what else to do to spark it. Any ideas?

[Bradwin]

Dear Caroline,

Reading your question there is two parts...

First there is the questions about "compliments?"

This one is straight forward, people and I say people here because both men and women fall into these two groups.

There are those who can give and receive compliments with no problems as it is part of their nature.

These people are usually confident, high self-esteem people.

And those who find it hard to give and receive compliments and express their feelings.

Now a lot of men and women are going to fall into this second category.

Especially when it comes to expressing feelings... and trusting a compliment when one is given.

This is something you may have to be patient on Sherry as your relationship grows... just because you have had sex does not mean a person is going to express their innermost thoughts and feelings.

That comes with the building of trust.

However Caroline, there is nothing to stop your mentioning to your boyfriend that now and again that you would like to be shown appreciation for who you are and receive complements for how you look or things you have done.

We all like to feel appreciated for who we are and it is nice to receive complements now and again.

It is something you may well have to prompt him on.

It does not come natural to every one.

It is though a very good skill to have and possess in all social situations with people and not just for a relationship.

Then there is this point I like to mention.

"I do things to make sure he likes me for more then just sex."

Do things to make sure he "likes" you Sherry?

Do things because you want to do things for you and you enjoy sharing with him.,,, be yourself, be YOU!

Because that is the woman he is going to really like and fall in love with.

You being the "authentic" you, not a woman who is doing things to get him to like her.

That is needy and lacks self-confidence that you will be genuinely liked, appreciated and loved for who you are!

Which leads on to the last part of your e mail.

"I don't know what to do to make him fall in love with me. I don't know how to make him "feel it."

Sherry, we can never make any one fall in love with us unless they want too.

Attraction is not a choice... Love is!

Do not confuse attraction, chemistry and sex (lust) for Love.

Love is something that grows between people.

And the biggest quality that helps love grow is "trust" between partners in an "intimate" relationship.

And "trust" is built on being authentic and attractive as you are!

Instead of trying to make him "like" and "love" you.

Be the woman he finds attractive, confident, sexy, fun.

Who he loves to be around and want to be with.

Then you will find he loves being with you, finds you highly attractive and will fall in "love" with you the REAL Authentic Woman.

Stop trying to make him do things and be "how" you want him to be.

There is a word for that Sherry called "manipulation."

Love is not about manipulating another to like and love you!

And understand he is a Man!

Men work differently from women... so learn to understand many of the differences between the sexes.

It will help you understand the man you are with.

And consider this Caroline, you are still in the "newbie" stage of a relationship, 6 months is not a long time and both of you will be finding out about each other as individuals.

Be the authentic attractive woman you are and yet him be the authentic man he is.

If you both want to build a solid long term relationship.

This is the time you start laying the foundations for such a relationship.

And those foundations are built on rock solid "Trust" between you both!

Trying to get him to like you, and doing things to make him love you and getting him to be how you want him to be is not a good way to go Sherry.

If you would like further help Sherry then please feel free to contact me.

[Olivia]

Make a guy fall in love? How? That is a good question. We have a good answer. If you are tired of being alone and spending Friday and Saturday nights by yourself or with the girls, read on for a bit of good dating advice.

If you really want to make a guy fall in love and make him commit to you forever you need to know a little about male psychology. You need to know what makes him tick; what really will attract men.

· It is true that physical attraction is very important to men. And that is not surprising; it is important to women, too. So do pay attention to your looks. Make sure that your hair style is the most flattering it can be. If you are not sure, ask your hair stylist and try different styles. Make sure that your clothing is stylish and looks good on you. Pay attention to your make up; not too much and not too little.

· After that you will want to work on developing a killer personality, so to speak. What components make up a great personality?

Being happy. A happy person is a people magnet. People will love to be around you, including Mr. Right, your soul mate. If you want to make a guy fall in love, be happy.

Being fun. Can you imagine that you want to do things and go places, but the person you are with just wants to sit and talk? That is not going to work out well. In the same way, you would do well to pay attention to what that special guy likes to do and learn to enjoy those things. If you want to make him fall in love with you, make sure he can have fun when you are around.

· Do not throw yourself at your man. Do not be a door mat. It is OK to let him know that you are interested, but if you smother him with attention, it will be counter productive. Men usually are not attracted to a woman who is needy.

Try our advice. You will be surprised and happy at how well it works. You will be able to make a guy fall in love with you.

[Michael]

What makes a guy fall in love? What is the real deal? What will it really take? What do you really have to do in order to stop spending your days and evenings alone or with the girls? Are you ready to try some great dating advice? We have some of the best for you. This is what makes a guy fall in love.

Have sex with him. Haha. Just kidding. This is NOT the way. It is true that sex will attract men, but if that is the big attraction, that man will only use you and leave you; breaking your heart and making you feel empty. There is a better way.

Demand that he love you. Haha. Just kidding again. This is not the real deal, either. If you are demanding, you may seem to succeed at first, but the reality is that he will leave you as soon as he can. Using emotions like this one or being needy will not make a guy fall in love with you and will not make him commit to you for real. It will be irritating and will repel, rather than attract him.

· Be a loving, interesting person. Ok. This is not joke. A peek into male psychology will tell us that men want to be around someone who is interesting and easy to get along with. This is what makes a guy fall in love. So try to be easy going. Learn how to laugh and smile. Do not think that you can attract Mr. Right by scowling or frowning. Be fun to be with.

· It really helps when a woman (or a man who wants to attract a woman) grows as a person. You can do this by taking classes and reading books. This will help you to continue learning about things. Keep up on the local and national news. Travel; go places, meet people and do things. Take up a hobby. All of these things will make you a more interesting person. They will give you something interesting to say in group situations. Never stop growing.

· If you want him to fall in love with you, give him some warm, personal attention. Pay attention when he talks. Compliment him whenever you can. When your eyes meet, smile at him so he knows that you are interested.

Try these things. They will make you a people magnet. They will help you to attract your soul mate. This is what makes a guy fall in love.

[Caroline]

Thank you all for your great advice.