My Boyfriend Is Unemployed?

[Victoria]

What about MONEY and relationships. My boyfriend is unemployed. Should I lend him money to help him out?

[Clinton]

Money in relationships (especially with men's who's pride can get all tied up in their earning power) is a BIG topic, but here's a the short answer:

Never (under any circumstances) lend your boyfriend money. Having one partner owe another partner financially creates a crazy power imbalance in the relationship and can lead to resentment.

If you want to help your boyfriend out, help him out by giving him a gift (and making it very clear that you don't expect to be repaid.)

If he feels the need to repay you later, that's fine. But don't EXPECT it or demand it.

And make sure you're not dealing with some one who's looking for a free ride.

[Victoria]

Clinton, thank you for your advice.