Was it the sex or he just planned to leave

[Teo]

I talked to this guy for a month and a half. He was mostly gone first a trip and then a training outside of the city. He was way to sweet from.the start telling me I'm his dream girl wich made me think hes not true. We would only meet during weekends but spend the whole weekend together. Had deep conversations, he told me he wants a serious relationship... he told me he loved me, and all the cheesy things girls like.l to hear like "ill give u everything i have, i wanna be like this forever". Told me we were officially dating. I was much colder because i have a harď time opening up but i had very strong feelings for him and i have also discovered his ig full of pics of a girl. recent but all before i started talking to him. He said its his ex and i let it be) i was worried and suspicious the whole time but eventually because he persisted for the whole last week i gave in and slept with him. I was very scared and should not have done it i know. It was uncomfortable for me since i didn't have any contact in maybe a year and it hurt... since i was not 100% familiar with him i was embarrassed a few times and kept stressing on making it pleasurable for him. Hat dk stop hkm.from hurting me a few times. He said its ok and we can just stop completley if i want to. We continued eventually and it all went good... so i tought. Next day hes still somehow sweet... but kinda weird. Tells me not to worry cuz he won't just leave me and well meet again the next day. After that i never heard from.him again... he went back to the gf/ex... they seem all crazy in love again (just one day after he was with me) idk if i was the one who scared him.away to the gf or if he always planned to go back or if they never even broke up and he just cheated under the excuse he was on training

[Kate]

If your boyfriend left you for his ex don't try and convince him that he's made the wrong choice. You know he has but trying to convince him of that will only make you look desperate in his eyes. Whenever a woman pleads with a man to take her back or she talks badly about another woman in an effort to win his heart, she devalues herself. You know that you're the superior choice for him so there's no better way to convince him of that then to show him.

Instead of taking the obvious approach by calling him all the time and reminding him of why he left her to begin with, show him what a mistake it was leaving you. The best way to do that is to show your boyfriend that you're mature and emotionally able to handle rejection on a scale like this. It's very hard to accept that your man dumped you and ran back to the woman he was with before he met you, but you do need to accept it in order to get him back. In other words you need to do the opposite of what he's expecting you to do.

Every man is driven by the challenges that present themselves in his life. It's why men are so captivated by sports and it's also why they chase after specific women. If you throw yourself at your boyfriend's mercy and beg him to leave his ex for you, you're killing his attraction for you. However, if you smile sweetly, tell him that you only want the best for him and you jump back into the dating pool, he'll fall over himself trying to win you back. Become the woman he can't have anymore and you'll be the woman he wants. Male psychology has proven that to be the case so use that knowledge to your advantage.

[Jerome]

I'm sorry to tell you this, but I have to be candid with you. He simply used you for sex and nothing more. The fact is that, there was never a time he broke up with his girlfriend.

I will advice you move on with your life.

[Ella]

Sweetie, I know exactly how you feel about what this guy has done to you. However, you need to move on because he is a player. You did nothing to make him leave you, he simply wanted to sleep with you. He got what he wanted and left you, because he was simply after sex.