anyone know people like this?

[worriedwithfear]

Do you know of people who never got married and have always been single but desperately wanted to?

So those were SINGLE but NOT by choice but rather because they could not meet a potential partner and essentially lived a life of emotional torture and anguish? So not including priests, nuns, non-sexual ppl etc.

I'm talking about men and women who are more or less "on the shelf" as it were, like in their 60s/70s? (Of course it is never too late to some extent, but...you know what I mean).

[Bella]

I completely understand what you mean. These are people who actually wanted to get married but weren't lucky to get someone to marry them.

This often occurs when the person is just too desperate for a spouse, and no one wants to be with someone who is desperate.

We often fear the motive for someones desperation, and so don't want such people for a relationship.

[Ben]

This happens often with a lot of people.

The fact is that, you can only get a significant other until you don't want one.

The more such people go in search for a spouse the more they can't find one. However, if only they can forget about getting married, then suitors will start coming for them.

[worriedwithfear]

This happens often with a lot of people.

The fact is that, you can only get a significant other until you don't want one.

The more such people go in search for a spouse the more they can't find one. However, if only they can forget about getting married, then suitors will start coming for them.

I know what you're saying, it's that "it happens when you least expect it" nonsense. Yeah sure it does happen for some like that but then how do you explain the millions of people who meet their match on dating sites and other methods where they are clearly chasing "it" and looking for a partner hence why they're on a dating site!

You can desire something without coming off as desperate.