Cant tell if my best friend wants to hookup..need help!

[Chi93]

So I've been friends with this girl since 4th grade,about 12 years now,but we've always been close. Every time i had a breakup,shes always there. We hang out every day almost and its always late at night,which is nothing new though..but here recently,shes been sitting closer to me,shes always playing with her lip rings,and as of last night she put her hands on my arm and leg. It was mainly because she was cuddling her dog between us but when she made contact with me,her hand didnt move..i cant tell is she wants to hookup or not,she always jokes about never wanting to bang but she always says it lol..im kinda afraid to make things awkward by asking her straight up or flat out trying to make a move,im just at a lose...im driving myself crazy trying to figure out whats on her mind without actually asking her...any advice would be helpful at this point

[Victoria]

So, let's just get one thing straight - I know this would be a lot easier if your female friend would just throw herself at you. You know like: make a move; rip off your shirt; declare her feelings; or make a brief confession. The truth is that 90% of women won't do that. I know it seems unfair. But what is really unfair is that I'm now going to give you the upper hand. What does that mean for you? It means after I share with you the 3 main signals that demonstrate a woman's interest - it's going to be so obvious whether your friend has the hots for you. The only difference is that you know exactly "what signs and signals" you need to be paying attention to. And that, my friend, is exactly what we are going to talk about.

Sign # 1: She changes the way she interacts and behaves with you

The most important thing to notice here is the distinction between how she acted around you before and how she acts around you now. Maybe she starts to dress better. Maybe she will only see you when she has her makeup on or looks nice. Maybe you start to notice her feeling a little more nervous or flirty around you. Maybe she starts being more physically close to you by lingering during a hug or kiss on the cheek and allowing for more opportunities to have that happen. Maybe she seems a little more self conscious around you and harder to relax. Different women will do different things, but if she is your friend, you will be able to compare and contrast how she was acting in the past to how she is acting now.

Sign # 2: She goes above and beyond that of a good friend

Whatever your level of friendship was with her beforehand, when a woman has a romantic interest, she will do more for you than she would any other friend. For example, if beforehand you would have to beg and plead with her to come to a family event to save you from the boredom of being there alone, now she happily agrees and seems somewhat interested to meet and mingle with your family. If beforehand you had to battle with her booked out diary to score a hang out time, now she seems to have a lot more available spots for you. If beforehand she would send you a get well text when you were feeling sick, now she turns up on your doorstep with soup, tissues, and season 1, 2, and 3 of Family Guy with the promise of even keeping you company for a while. If the majority of her changes in behavior lead to her being more involved and available for you, then you can bet she has a really big soft spot for you and her interest is more than that of a friend. What you are looking for is the contrast to how she has interacted with you beforehand and how she is interacting with you now.

Sign # 3: She is jealous of the women you are interested in or dating

When a woman wants something, she usually wants it all to herself. This is particularly true when it comes to the man she wants to date. If she has her eye on you as the prize, it's going to drive her crazy when you are talking with or dating other women. Here are some examples which reveal a woman's jealous streak. She asks for dirty gossip on women you are dating and really targets on any reservations you may feel about this girl. She may appear to get uncomfortable or twitchy when you are on the phone to a girl who you are potentially interested in you. If you mention a girl's name and she doesn't know who she is, your friend will inquire about it suspiciously - and shrug it off like it doesn't matter if it is a girl you happen to be dating. She may even become more sensitive when you talk about other women and could change the subject or get quiet and slightly withdrawn.

So, if you have a woman that has changed the way she behaves around you in this manner, then you bet she likes you. What you are looking for is not just one or two of these behaviors but a combination of all these behaviors together. Look for the overall pattern of how she is interacting with you with reference to these signs, and it will become very apparent to you. If your friend has always been flirty, thoughtful, and jealous of all the women you've dated - then she has probably liked you all along and you just haven't realized it. No matter what your situation is, the power is now in your hands - it's up to you to decide what you want to do with it.

[Caleb]

You don't have to go crazy over if she wants to hang out with you or not. If she is acting different from how she normally acts, then you know she likes you more than a friend. However, don't try to be creepy by trying to make certain physical contact like touching her in sensitive areas, this will ruin everything. You should just come out straight and talk to her about it, however, do it jokingly. Bring up the idea of going into a relationship with her as a joke, so that when she refuses you can simply tell her you were just joking. This way, you won't ruin the friendship you have with her.

[Chi93]

Tried all this...still really confused,its like she keeps teetering on the friendship line and relationship line,so ive just been keeping distance