I Still Love My Ex Boyfriend but I Have A New Boyfriend

[Pii]

Hey guys. I’m new here, and never participated in forums like this, but tonight I feel like sharing stuff with strangers and not feel bad about it.

So my story probably is similar to other people’s, but it’s unique and confusing to me.

For last 6 years I hv been in love with someone. Someone who used to be my colleague. Someone who is married, has 2 kids, lives thousands of km away and whom I hv not seen face to face in 3 years. All seems like text book case of perfect conditions for me to forget him. Distance, marriage, kids...the fact that I hv a boyfriend for last 5 years. But...that little f***ing world BUT. He contacts me, he misses me, after at least 20 times we hv decided not to ever talk to each other...something always brings him back to me.
With my head I understand that this is wrong and completely unhealthy. But why is it so hard?
His wife found out about us years ago, but she stayed with him, even though we never stopped communicating, and time to time she finds that out. He feels bad for hurting her and to be honest..I feel terrible too, but there is something about that person that makes me forget about everything on this planet.
Im at a point in my life where my current bf is changing jobs and has to go and live abroad and I’m going with him..but I hv my doubts. We hv no spark in our relationship..he has not touched me in more then 3 months. And don’t get me wrong..I love sex and I am open to it. I don’t feel like a women..I mean he provides for us..we live in a nice house and money is no issue, but I miss just a simple thing as hugs, kisses, feeling of appreciation. He is used to me and tolerated me and every time he has a bit too much to drink he tells me he loves me. It’s just that I don’t feel that on daily basis and sure enough I don’t want him to become an alcoholic just so that he would share his feelings with me more often

[Pii]

Uhmm...seems like I lost a part of my post...
Basically what I was saying...I love my BF..he is safe, predictable. But I really LOVE that other man and what I hate the most about myself is that I think I would run to him without even looking back if his situation ever changed...ouch

[Brett]

What makes you think it is love!?
See, there is nothing strange if you love two people at a time, but what sort of love it is for each one among them is important! The thing is you love your patents, and your parents love you and your siblings at a time. But this is another sort of love. You love one guy and you also love the another guy!
Ask few questions you yourself :-

• You started loving them on same day?
• With whom you feel more comfortable with!?
• If you loved the first guy then what was the reason behind loving the another one?
• If you love the another guy then what is better in this one that made you feel for him?
• If you seriously love the another guy,then who was the previous guy?"an option "
• If you love the previous guy then who is the new guy whom you love!? " a backup "

Basically what I mean is, are you sure about love?? Or you have kept your heart at stake!? Or you still didn't move on and come over your ex? Or you just wanna play with lives of two ppl?

Finally I would like to conclude this way, you don't have to do anything, if he was your ex, you might have decided and moved on with the other guy! Then if you again say you love your ex then it was not a decision! And if it was not decided to move on with another guy then why you are with him?
Don't worry much, let the things go with flow! Find the reasons why he is your ex now and stop worrying, it happens coz we can't bury memories and they keep on pulling us behind and we get misleaded!

If your bf makes you happy stop thinking about the ex! It's just the past that's trying to pull you and put you in perplexedo situation!
Have a happy love life ahead

[Sammy]

Its that simple really . If you really loved your ex , as you say . You'd have moved heavens and hell to get with him again. No matter the circumstances , no matter what situation you guys were in, you could have done it .

Don't play with fire and spoil the perfect relationship in which you are now. You can't just forget your ex , but you can CHOOSE to ignore him .

[Victoria]

Nothing just stay happy, this is Good that you at least accept it. If you have loved somebody you can't really stop loving this is true, and releasing a bond of relationship is always possible. I think; The question should be with whom I should live,it's better to live with one loves you and keep loving them. But remember Love is verb, Feeling of Love is just the out come of our innocent, continuous care.... And Love has nothing to do with romance. Love is genuine care, and if you feel romantic for both of your partners that means you haven't really lived one completely. Search the answer within.

[Pii]

Uhm...I did not come up with that title of my post and it is completely wrong. But that’s not the point. I was reading other people’s posts and comments on this site and it just struck me. First of all...he was never my ex boyfriend...we had an affair, that somehow never ended..or let’s say we never really ended it.
I was never his girlfriend..I was his mistress and I just never said that out loud because I did not think it was about me...I thought that I love him ( well still do), but now I realize that actually I just loved the way he makes me feel. He is a big, tall guy, ( and I’m a tall and a little overweight woman) and you see when ever he hugged me I felt protected and for a change weak. In my current relationship I don’t feel that and boy how I miss that..just the chance to be weak. I know it’s silly.
And Brett..thank you for your comments, appreciate them a lot.
I most definitely don’t want to play with people’s lives mine included. I keep juggling with my emotions..one day I’m absolutely sure that this twisted thing just has to stop. Another day I’m daydreaming on how I’m gonna get together with him and we will live happily ever after. I guess I should not Hv watched that many chick movies when I was growing up. I am a rational person actually but when it comes to my heart...it all goes out the window.