First of all, english is not my first language, so sorry for all the misspellings. Need some advise.
I have been together with my boyfriend for just over a year. He recently told me that he has a child, with an ex-girlfriend, that tricked him (telling him she used birthcontrol, changing her story later and so on). He tried in the beginning to be supportive, and she didnt let him have anything to do with the child. Years later she contacted him to try to get him interested in the child, but then he didnt want to have anything to do with the girl.
I do understand why he didnt tell me before, its kind of a fresh relationship and this is a secret that only some of his best friends know about.
We are pretty serious, and we are very honest to each other.
Right now I am very mixed on my emotions. How am I supposed to handle this?
I have friends that have been tricked by girls, so I know that is a thing, and I do believe him in his story.
But, I grew up with only one parent after my parents split up, and I do believe that the child should not suffer, that the child should get to know both parents.
My boyfriend dont feel like it is his child, since he in the beginning didnt get involved and there was so many lies (he has taken a paternity test to be sure it is his, and it is).
So he has no interest in the child. Have never met the child or seen pictures..
For me its something I really cant understand. It is his flesh and blood.
Have anyone been in a situation like this? I feel I have noone I can talk to, exept him, because telling any of my friends will be dishonest against him.
So I really want some input, someone others thougt on this.
He is a very nice guy who helps friends and family out, always there for me and even take allergi medicin for my cat, so he can be around me. The cat was there before him and I am not giving up on my cat, and he have never tried to make me. we kind of semi live togheter and we talk each days for hours if we are not with each other.
I have been together with my boyfriend for just over a year. He recently told me that he has a child, with an ex-girlfriend, that tricked him (telling him she used birthcontrol, changing her story later and so on). He tried in the beginning to be supportive, and she didnt let him have anything to do with the child. Years later she contacted him to try to get him interested in the child, but then he didnt want to have anything to do with the girl.
I do understand why he didnt tell me before, its kind of a fresh relationship and this is a secret that only some of his best friends know about.
We are pretty serious, and we are very honest to each other.
Right now I am very mixed on my emotions. How am I supposed to handle this?
I have friends that have been tricked by girls, so I know that is a thing, and I do believe him in his story.
But, I grew up with only one parent after my parents split up, and I do believe that the child should not suffer, that the child should get to know both parents.
My boyfriend dont feel like it is his child, since he in the beginning didnt get involved and there was so many lies (he has taken a paternity test to be sure it is his, and it is).
So he has no interest in the child. Have never met the child or seen pictures..
For me its something I really cant understand. It is his flesh and blood.
Have anyone been in a situation like this? I feel I have noone I can talk to, exept him, because telling any of my friends will be dishonest against him.
So I really want some input, someone others thougt on this.
He is a very nice guy who helps friends and family out, always there for me and even take allergi medicin for my cat, so he can be around me. The cat was there before him and I am not giving up on my cat, and he have never tried to make me. we kind of semi live togheter and we talk each days for hours if we are not with each other.
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