How to help youngest son deal with my girlfriend who’s the same age?

[david211]

They say love knows no age but I’m not so sure if that’s entirely true. I have a girlfriend that I met at A Foreign Affair. We fit together well. She’s smart, caring, and genuine about what she feels for me. The only worry I have is that she’s at least about the same age as my youngest son. I don’t know if it’s still acceptable for the two of us to date.

I’m already a widower at the age of fifty-seven with two kids. My wife died ten years ago. My eldest child is now thirty years old and has a family of her own. Meanwhile, my youngest is twenty-three years old and lives in his own rental unit near the business center. I’m still working as an investment analyst, ready to retire in three years time.

My eldest daughter approves of my relationship with my foreign girlfriend but I haven’t talked to my son yet. I don’t know how he would react to it as my girlfriend is just about his age. Is the age gap between me and my girlfriend abroad weird? Will it be fine to introduce her to my children via video call?

I’m falling hard for her so it’s really important for me that my children approve of our relationship. I value their opinion so much. I plan to visit her this summer. Should I take my youngest son so they can meet in person? I need advice on this matter. Please help me.

[Zinok]

Well you should definitely talk to your son about it. You can't keep your feelings for this woman secret without damaging either your relationship with your family or with her.
Personally I think it's creepy and I wouldn't be into it if my mother or father was dating someone the same age as me. But if your feelings are genuine and you think hers are too, then I wish you luck in overcoming any issues your family will have with it. Just be aware that people will likely question both yours and her motives, and don't let it get to you, be patient and understanding with your son if he isn't supportive right off the bat. Try to imagine how you would have felt if your mother or father was dating someone your age when you were in your early twenties and they were in their late fifties. The age gap between you two is bigger than her age number, you're at completely different stages in your life. I think you should also evaluate what kind of relationship is even possible with a girl that young, who doesn't even live in the same country as you, and if that matches your life goals.

[Clay]

I will suggest one thing you can do to make your youngest son like your girlfriend. Tell your girlfriend to always buy gifts that your son will appreciate whenever she comes around. Like they say, "a Man's gifts open doors for him," and it's true in this case.