Foreign gf’s dad died. Should I send money?

[toughroger21]

I have a girlfriend from the Philippines that I met years ago during a romance tour. We’ve been together for quite some time now since we got together just a few months after we met. I immediately fell for her because of her good qualities. Behind her pretty face is a girl with good moral and character. What got to me most is her overwhelming love for her family.


She values her family so much that she even put her love life on hold for a long time. When we met, she was still in the early stages of finding love. I admire her determination of giving her family a better life. She said she wanted to provide for them the way their father used to before he got sick. I could see how much she loved her family.


I got a call from her recently and received the sad news of her father’s death. I knew he meant a lot to her. She said she has to stay off work for a few days to a week to deal with the arrangements of her dad’s funeral. It’s going to be a long period without getting paid and I know her family would need the money. I really feel bad for them especially her.


It got me thinking, should i send her money? What’s the custom in the Philippines when somebody dies? Is it okay to give money as a sort of help for her family? She’s never asked me money before. Even now she hasn’t asked anything.

[Gray]

If you have never met her face to face, it's not advisable to send her money. This might be another SCAM.

[Peggy]

I will suggest you travel to see her and give her money.

[Twilightsteve]

I agree with Peggy but it will cost you hundreds to travel there and back, money you can give her online.
Gray, he has met her!!

[Senyo]

Hello. I don't know you girl so I can not tell if it is scam or not. I am not trying to scare you. But asking money for family is a very common trick to get money from your boy/girlfriend or even employer here in asean or at least in Indonesia where I come from. You know like suddenly they have three uncles or cousins and four pairs of grandpa and grandma and they are all dead or having some sort of accidents. Many cases I have seen is that even you are ok with each other but the family pressure you to provide for them. You become milk cow for the family and the extended family. Once again, I don't know your gf, but you do. Just be wise.

[bunnyhabit]

filipina girls tend to be very family oriented and love it when they can get money from anyone. if you are confident she really loves you you should ask her how you can help her during her time of grief not just send money. she will probably interpret this as you want to just be a sugar daddy to her.