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Bf of 6 years has lied about his finances in past to make it sound better than it is (he racked up a lot of credit card debt he couldn’t afford). . Because of this I never lived with him. We do love each other and have chemistry.
He is finally getting his finances back on track after much effort on my part of helping him budget etc and him getting a modest cash gift from family. However I find out that his elderly mother is in credit card debt up to her ears and he is working it out through lawyers to close her account (he handles her affairs as her POA). Trouble is he used that account from time to time when he claims he was short on cash including paying car insurance (every month including up to January) but the REAL issue for me is when I asked a month ago he said he only used her card for gas from time to time (he now says he told me car insurance but I don’t recall that at all and then he said he forgot it was an automatic charge to her account). What made me ask was I noticed he used her card to pay for an expensive dinner recently and I got really upset so he put his own money in her account to pay it. I suppose now I need to decide if all these lies should be excused since he now says her accounts will close and he is paying his cards on time (which he is I know) since he wants to move in now? Is it worth the risk ???
I should say that since I "caught" him in a lie about his car insurance I suppose, he tells me he called the bank to make sure moving forward his insurance is paid from his account and that he is moving forward to close his mom's 1 credit card and settle the amount and then paying down the other one starting today. Is this enough REALLY???
He is finally getting his finances back on track after much effort on my part of helping him budget etc and him getting a modest cash gift from family. However I find out that his elderly mother is in credit card debt up to her ears and he is working it out through lawyers to close her account (he handles her affairs as her POA). Trouble is he used that account from time to time when he claims he was short on cash including paying car insurance (every month including up to January) but the REAL issue for me is when I asked a month ago he said he only used her card for gas from time to time (he now says he told me car insurance but I don’t recall that at all and then he said he forgot it was an automatic charge to her account). What made me ask was I noticed he used her card to pay for an expensive dinner recently and I got really upset so he put his own money in her account to pay it. I suppose now I need to decide if all these lies should be excused since he now says her accounts will close and he is paying his cards on time (which he is I know) since he wants to move in now? Is it worth the risk ???
I should say that since I "caught" him in a lie about his car insurance I suppose, he tells me he called the bank to make sure moving forward his insurance is paid from his account and that he is moving forward to close his mom's 1 credit card and settle the amount and then paying down the other one starting today. Is this enough REALLY???
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