Interrupting

[Ali]

I just need to vent somewhere because I’m feeling really upset so I joined this forum to not only get advice but to let this out

My boyfriend interrupts my conversations. I’ll be talking about something like work and then during my conversation he will interrupt me and talk about him or his work instead and whenever this happens I forget what I’m talking about then I get hurt and angry then I go quiet and don’t feel like talking anymore

sometimes he knows he accidentally interrupts and he says so and let’s me finish but when it becomes more than a couple of times in one conversation I start getting upset. I feel like what I say doesn’t matter or he’s not really listening. We’ve had this conversation many times that I feel I’m not important or my opinions don’t matter and he says he’s trying but I continue to get hurt. I’m naturally a quieter type person with kind nature so this is my flaw when it comes to thing like this. I keep saying that one day I will get so angry he will see how bad my anger can get. I feel like maybe he needs to see it once in his life.

Anyway I really needed to just get this off my chest because it hurts

[Caroline]

I know exactly how it feels to be interrupted while talking. From all you have said, I can say that your boyfriend is someone that talks a lot. He talks too much that he just can't help but always interrupt you while talking.

So, I'll advice you always bring it to him awareness whenever he does this, and let him know you aren't happy with it. He isn't going to change drastically, but will gradually start to change and will eventually become that person you want him to be.

[Sammy]

My girlfriend does the same thing, but she doesn't do it as much as she does before. When I first started dating her, she will always interrupt my while talking that I will always get upset and angry. However, I kept talking to her about it, and will always get angry whenever she does it. So, she has changed so much, and now doesn't do it as much as before.

Don't stop talking to him about it, he will eventually change for the better.

[bunnyhabit]

you need to reinforce his desire to correct his self centered personality with you. next time get up and leave him alone for a couple of days to show him how much he is hurting your feelings. just complaining won't correct his behavior. you need to up the importance of this behavior to motivate him to respect you as his woman.

[Ali]

Thank you all for your help. Thank you for giving me some guidance. It has made me feel better. I do need to definitely let him know more often how this affects me. I was nearly in tears last night in front of him but held back until I was alone. He needs to see how much it does affect me. Thanks for your suggestions