Fiancee's mom wants to move in

[hrjackson30]

I just don’t get why my fiancee want her mom to live with us after our wedding. She and I have been staying in our apartment for about two years now. So far, we’ve established a good routine and chemistry inside the house. If we add in her mom to the mix, I’m afraid she might shake this balance. It kind of pieces me off how of all time my fiancee wants her to move in, she chose after the wedding. Isn’t that supposed to be our honeymoon period? How do I tell her that I don’t want her mom with us? At least not after our first year. You see her family’s used to this kind of thing since they’re kind of a tight family. Her mom’s from Cebu who met her dad in some asian date tour. Her parents got married and lived here in Chicago since then. Two of her mom’s siblings migrated here too and lived with them for a while. Basically, living with extended family members is a walk in the park for her. But it’s not for me. I need help to survive this fiasco. Someone save me.

[bunnyhabit]

have you asked your fiancee why after two years she wants her mom to move in?

it is traditional in asia for many generations to cohabitate in one dwelling but is subnormal for just the brides mother to move in with her daughter after marriage. what will brides father do stay alone?

this does not make any logical sense to me.

[Kate]

The best way to tell her is to have a one-on-one talk with her regarding this issue. Let her know that you love her mom but don't want her mom in the house the first year because you both need to bond. Let her know the benefits of her mom not being in the house. She will definitely have a change of mind.

[Rob]

One thing you must know is that when you are married to a woman, you are married to the family as well. So, you must learn to accommodate all of her family members, and that includes her mom.

[bunnyhabit]

filipina girls are very close to their mothers, probably main reason for this requirement. surprised did not happen two years ago