Is he bored with me? Has our relationship reached the end?

[A207]

I have been dating a man for about three years now. I am an attractive young woman and am about 10 years younger than he is(also attractive).
Recently I have been feeling unwanted. In past relationships I always told how beautiful, gorgeous, sexy etc I was. But in the past 9 months, give or take, I have been feeling unwanted. I have brought it up before saying I would like if he would tell me when I am wearing something he likes, or if I turn him on, or if I have done my hair/ make up a way he likes etc. He said he wasn't good with that type of thing but he would try to do better at it . So a few weeks later going to dinner he said I looked very pretty. It made me happy but that was it.

He also said that he would get me gifts but it's not the same when you don't feel sexy. Sometimes one word or look is worth a thousand words. Lol

I have tried to do my make up more dramatic, more natural, wearing heels more, dressing different, anything to get him to like it. I obviously want it to come naturally and not forced to say it when he doesn't actually like it.
i have been finding myself becoming jelous now( I never was before). When I see him look at other women who are even slightly attractive I get that jelous feeling you get in your stomach. I have even questioned female friends he has made since we've started dating .We talk about them calmly and he just says that they're friends and he is not attracted to them. Then why are all the new female friends attractive? He old female friends were a mix of good looking and decent so why only attractive now? I have asked this because I feel bad for feeling jealous .am I right to feel this way?


Recently he has been away. I sent him some pictures I thought he would like. He was busy so about 8 hours later I got thank you. Thank you? I told him my ego was a bit bruised because I hoped he would comment and he replied ' I said thank you'. I know he was busy so I didn't press any more. But I was left feeling bad about my body. Am I not fit enough? Were my poses bad?
i don't understand why I get compliments and looks from other men a lot but the one man I want to compliment me doesn't seem be attracted to me anymore .

He is coming back soon and I am not sure if I should be feeling this way or if I am over thinking or what.

Any help is greatly appreciated

[Ella]

I think you shouldn't conclude that he isn't attracted to you anymore. First, you need to closely observe if he's the kind of person who don't talk too much or doesn't have the attitude of complimenting. You can find out by his interaction with his friends (male or female) observe if he compliments them. If he compliments them, then you know he isn't into you anymore. If that's the case, you need to move on with grace.

[Anthony]

"My boyfriend never compliments me" is a common issue that drives women crazy. You start feeling insecure and start wondering if he truly loves you. But there are powers at work that could have nothing to do with you...or everything to do with you. How do you tell the difference?

Truth #1 - Sometimes Men Just Forget

Here's the simplest explanation for this problem: men just forget about stuff like this. Maybe he's focused on his job, finances, kids, sports, sex, cars, etc....basically everything except complimenting his girlfriend.

He got you to marry him and now the hard work is done, right? It's probably not intentional and he's just not focused on making you feel good about yourself.

Truth #2 - Is He Showing You Love and Affection In Other Ways?

I'm a firm believer that actions mean more than words alone. Does he tell you he loves you? If his actions tell you he loves you and is attracted to you, you may not need the words.

I know that you want the words, but do you really need them if you're secure in your relationship with your boyfriend?

Truth #3 - Do You Feel He's Lost Interest in You?

Our thoughts can lead us down some very negative paths. If we have concluded that the lack of compliments really means that he's not attracted to us anymore, that can be devastating. But is it really the truth?

How is your sex life? How does he treat you? If he does not give you compliments because he's lost interest and your relationship is truly in trouble, there are steps you can take now to save your relationship.

But if he's never been very complimentary or has gotten out of the habit, then there are steps you can take to spice things up in your relationship.

Truth #4 - How You Treat Him Has a Direct Affect on How He Treats You

It's easy to be the victim in this situation. Your feelings are hurt and you're not feeling very secure in your relationship. But take an honest look at how you treat him. You may be sending off negative energy just because you're upset over this issue or some other problem in your relationship. And he may not even know why you're angry!

You may be the one that is driving him away, when all you really need to do is treat him a bit nicer. The Golden Rule sounds so simple, but it does work. Treat him the way you want to be treated and you will find that your relationship will start to relax and you'll be happier for it.

Is This a Symptom of a Bigger Issue?

Have you been complaining to your girlfriends "My boyfriend never compliments me"? If this is the biggest problem in your relationship, then count your blessings. If this is a symptom of a much bigger problem, there are steps you can take today to improve your relationship. And don't wait, take action today. Don't let this issue come between your relationship and don't build up a layer of resentment about it either. Do something to make things better now, before it turns into a serious issue.