How do deal with lack of male interest?

[sonietzo]

I am 22 and I have never dated a guy before mainly because men never show interest in me or ask me out. I have never tried online dating though. I keep thinking, when will it be my time to find someone and I keep hoping. In college, I joined some organizations and went to some events and still no guy ever seem interested in me there. Never had a hookup with a guy in college. I rarely even see men looking at me. Sometimes I wonder if men don’t take much interest in me because I look so young. I am 5'4 and 120 lbs and people have told me that I look very young and have a youthful looking face. People have asked me why I look like I am 12. People always ask about my age all the time. The oldest age someone told me I look was 18. I don't go to bars or clubs and I have never been the type of girl to get hit on/flirted with or approached by men anywhere and I have never had a guy ask for my number before both with and without engaging in some sort of conversation. The very few times I have been hit on were older uber/taxi drivers or older men on the street to tell me I am beautiful but that is practically it.

All of this lack of interest from men has made me feel like I won't find anyone since I am used to the lack of male attention. I feel too shy and scared to make a move myself on a guy because of this and it makes me believe that even though I don't think I am ugly, that maybe I am not attractive after all and getting rejected would make me feel even worse than I do now. I keep telling myself that I am only 22 and maybe if I wait and play the waiting game, I will find a guy who will finally notice me and take an interested in me. But I get scared that I will be 30 and still in the same position. Love just seems so complicated and hard to me. I don't know.......I just need advice.

[bunnyhabit]

based on your narrative you are doing all the wrong things to hook up with a man. i look young for my age but that has never stopped guys of all ages hitting on me. you need to visit bars and night clubs at your age. you need to dress your age with makeup, dresses, skirts and hi heels. you need to smile and make eye contact with men that appeal to you wherever you are. you need to show off your body with a nice wiggling of your breasts and bum to attract attention. you need to hang out with other attractive girls that will draw guys toward you. you need to flirt and communicate with guys that approach you. dont build up social blocks like maybe i am not attractive.

love is not easy you have to work at it with your mind, body and soul committed to success.

[mountainbird]

I recognize what you´re telling here. I would say, just work on yourself and be loving towards people in general is a good way to encourage love towards you.
And just learn how to be vulnerable but strong within ^^ <3

[Caleb]

There is a skill you must master if you want to make guys attracted to you and have them approach you. It's called irresistibility. If you possess this skill, you will naturally attract any guy towards you instantaneously.

Here are the secrets to being an irresistible woman and having guys approach you...

Look the prettiest - The way you look also matters to an extent although it isn't the only factor when it comes to attraction. Looking good helps you draw attention towards yourself. Once you can get the attention, you can work the magic and make them feel attracted to you. So having good looks is essential. Don't be lazy about your looks. Take care of every aspect - your clothing, your colors, your hair, your legs, and your weight. It's crucial. But make sure that you don't expose yourself too much.

Get to know more people - Believe it or not, the number of people who know you and like you matters when it comes to attracting guys. If five guys are ogling at you and another cute guy comes around, he can't help but feel attraction for you. That's how humans work. We rely on other people's opinion to make our judgments. And the best part is we are not even aware of it. Use that to manipulate your man and make him attracted to you. Win the attention and admiration of many people by getting to know them. Practice makes you perfect.

Keep smiling and having fun - Almost every guy is attracted to a woman who can smile and have fun. He doesn't have to approach you. You can approach him as well and start a normal conversation with him. But just don't reveal your intentions to him. Act cool and trick him into thinking whether you're interested or not.

Start a conversation with him, flirt with him, touch him and then leave him for a while to talk to some other guy. After some time, return back to him and go talk to someone else. This will make him wonder whether you like him or not. The more he wonders, the more he will feel attracted to you. Make some jokes and tease him in your conversations. It's important for the two of you to have fun. If there's no fun, there will be no attraction.