I'm 17 and he's 15

[Alice_Blue]

Here's a little background info, i've been single for 2 years and only bad one serious relationship. The guy cheated and i've been avoiding relationship since.

So i've been friends with this guy for a while, but he's younger than me and has very little relationship experience. The problem is, i'm a 17 years old girl and I dont know how To tell him I like him. We always joke around, sexuel jokes, innuendos etc. And we just spent the evening at my place, cuddling and all but neither of us dared To talk about the elephant in the room. He's a very physical person, but I feel like tonight was more than just a friends' hangout. He kept lightly touching me, petting my hair and holding me close To him. I dont know if he's into me Or not and i'm scared of being rejected.

[Rob]

Guys are known for being less emotional creatures. However, that doesn't mean they don't feel anything when a girl confesses to them. Unfortunately, what happens sometimes is that guys get spooked by declarations of love. Here is how to tell a guy you like him without scaring him off.

No. There's no need for a love potion or for that rope. Guys might run away at the first sign of a love confession; but when done correctly, you'll be able to successfully tell a guy you like him without scaring him off. Better yet, he might even reciprocate your feelings towards him.

Here's how to do it:

Tip # 1: Avoid Planning for the Future.

Most guys may not be ready for a commitment, but I can tell you that all guys will run away if you confess with a photo album of all your future children.

Yes, you are allowed to fantasize about a guy in that way; but don't ever let him catch you doing it. Unless of course, you two are already an item and in it for the long haul.

Tip # 2: Keep It Short and Sweet.

No need to tell him how many years you've spent pining after him. No need to tell him you swiped his handkerchief back in junior high either.

If you really want to learn how to tell a guy you like him without scaring him off, the best thing to do would be to shorten your lengthy love speech and go straight to the point. However, this will depend on how the guy reacts.

If he looks like he's ready to bolt, consider the expedition over. Don't go into panic mode and start blurting out all kinds of things to get him to stay. On the other hand, if he looks like he wants to know more, you can mention a small detail or two (nothing that screams stalker) and encourage him to say something.

Tip # 3: Don't be a Stalker.

You may have a very focused mind, but concentrating all your time and energy on one person can be pretty intimidating for any man.

If you want to know how to tell a guy you like him without scaring him off, don't do it in sneaky ways. Don't leave a secret admirer letter in his locker or in his car. One day you'll look back and cringe at how immature those moves are. Don't hover by his classroom door and corner him when the bell rings. Be casual about it. And no tears either! Nothing spooks guys out more than a girl crying.

These are some of the proven tips on how to tell a guy you like him without scaring him off. The truth is, guys can be highly unpredictable. Still, it's better to have confessed than to suffer through not having tried at all.

[Peggy]

Falling for a guy friend romantically is something that happens more of than not. It can either be deliriously exciting or a nightmare. Believe me, because I do know how it feels. When you have been very good friends with each for a long time and then suddenly, just like that, you realize you are always thinking of him, feeling uncomfortable and acting weird when he's around, you'll know that things have changed.

So what happened and what changed? Your feelings, you stupid! You are falling in love with the guy and you don't know what to do. More than anything, you are scared that he will not return your feelings. Things will not be easy for you my friend. Act sensibly and with luck you will find that he feels the same way about you.

Don't however, depend on luck alone, if your guy friend has always treated you like another of his casual friends and has absolutely no idea how you feel; you're in for a tough time. You can either let him know straight away and risk your friendship or worse still, he'll be aghast since he had no idea and thinks of you as a sister. Ugh! Now that can be really painful. So here's what you do. Take it easy and don't rush your fences or you will spoil the whole plan. These are my tactics and they have worked for me. Others might have different ways of doing it.

• Never tell your guy friend right away that you have feelings for him because if he does not think of you like that, it'll be a shock for him and he might start avoiding you. Once you have burnt your boat there's nothing you can do.

• Be a true friend to him. Listen when he talks; even if it's about other girls. Laugh with him when he's happy and show your concern when he's having problems.

• Be the first to offer help when he needs it. Show how concerned you are and let him know that you will stand by him no matter what.

• Look attractive whenever you are with him. Let him see you in a different light; as a desirable woman and not as a member of the gang.

• Surprise him with intelligent conversation and be knowledgeable about his interests in life (even if it's boring).

• Be ready to accompany him to a soccer match or motor show even if you'd rather be at a movie, alone with him. Never nag him.

• In short, be indispensable to him.

• When you have him eating out of your hand, start acting elusive and mysterious. If you have been calling him, don't call; wait for him to call you. When he wants you to go somewhere with him, say that you have a previous appointment, but don't tell with whom. Let him wonder.

When you arrive at this stage, he will definitely feel your absence and worry that he has been taking you for granted. He will start wondering whether you have found a boyfriend or are slowly moving away from him. That will scare him to hell and make him come running to you to tell you that he can't do without you. Believe me, it works, every time.