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I divorced 4 years ago and have been through all the stages of healing and I am in a good place with my ex with zero issues.
I decided to try online dating and met this guy who said he separated from his ex-wife 7 months ago, after being married several years. I thought at the time that he might not be in a good place to date someone else, but he said that he is over her and the relationship ended long before they separated.
So we started dating and we really like each other. He posted photos of us on his social media accounts, so his friends and family know about me. But, every time we are together, things about his ex always comes up: how he still feels guilty about leaving her although he didn't love her anymore (it seems she was trying him to feel guilty), how he still has stuff of his own in her place that he needs to get, sometimes he remembers random stuff about her, or the other day a friend mentioned his ex on one of his Instagram photos where he was with me (on a joke). He didn't even deleted the "joke".
I find this extremely annoying and it makes me feel he is not emotionally ready to start something new with me, although he wants it. I know he is still healing and recovering, but I feel this is not fair on me. I have no issues I bring back with exes and I am fed up with it.
Should I have a conversation with him about how all this makes me feel? Thank you.
I decided to try online dating and met this guy who said he separated from his ex-wife 7 months ago, after being married several years. I thought at the time that he might not be in a good place to date someone else, but he said that he is over her and the relationship ended long before they separated.
So we started dating and we really like each other. He posted photos of us on his social media accounts, so his friends and family know about me. But, every time we are together, things about his ex always comes up: how he still feels guilty about leaving her although he didn't love her anymore (it seems she was trying him to feel guilty), how he still has stuff of his own in her place that he needs to get, sometimes he remembers random stuff about her, or the other day a friend mentioned his ex on one of his Instagram photos where he was with me (on a joke). He didn't even deleted the "joke".
I find this extremely annoying and it makes me feel he is not emotionally ready to start something new with me, although he wants it. I know he is still healing and recovering, but I feel this is not fair on me. I have no issues I bring back with exes and I am fed up with it.
Should I have a conversation with him about how all this makes me feel? Thank you.
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