I Want A Relationship But He Wants To Be Friends

[Jeanniejox]

Hi all....Sounds ridiculous to be on a relationship forum at my age but right now I really need some advice. Ive been seeing a great guy for a few months and we've been seeing each other a few times a week, been away together a couple of times, started to do up my dads caravan so that we can go on holidays together etc etc. Then yesterday he tells me he doesnt want a relationship with me, he just wants to be friends, because he cant see us being together in 20 years time, hes no good in relationships, friendships last longer than relationships. Then he goes on to tell me he still wants to ho on caravanning holidays with me, sunday drives, dinners and even to the point of still wanting to show me affection. Hes not going out looking for anyone else and still wants me in his life. He says he needs time to himself. We see each other a few times each week and talk on the phone once each day. Im very confused and upset and need some advice. Thanks in advance.

[Savannah]

I think you need to ask yourself what you want out of the relationship. If you can accept what he is offering then go ahead with it. But if you can't, end it now.

[TeeDee]

What he's telling you is that he wants no-strings attached sex. He wants all of the benefits of a relationship with none of the responsibilities or commitments. If you are fine precluding yourself from dating others go ahead & spend time with this selfish man. Understand quality men will want nothing to do with you while he's around.

[Barry]

Obviously, you both aren't on the same page. If you want a relationship while he just wants to be friends, then you are left with one option and that is to breakup with him. Continuing in friendship with him will get you hurt in no distance time.

[Zinok]

If you want a relationship and he`s flat out telling you he doesn`t... well then it looks like you need to go find someone who wants to be in a relationship with you.
I know that`s hard to hear, I`m sure you care very much about this guy. But it sounds like he doesn`t want the same things as you, and just wants to keep stringing you along so that he gets the benefit of being in a relationship without any of the commitment. You deserve better than that.