I will never be in a relationship and it makes me sad

[ljubo]

How do i deal with being alone my whole life? I would really like to meet a woman and get married one day but its impossible, it can not happen and that makes me sad.

I have too many flaws for a woman to like me. Its not possible to have a crush on me.

Some of my flaws:


bad posture (back and neck, born with it did not get it from too much sitting infront of computer etc)

extremely red lips (looks like lipstick)

little head.

big and deformed nose.

bushy eyebrows.

walking strange.

crooked foot.

ptosis/lazy eye.

my skin is terrible.

i have a weird way of looking with my eyes.

acne.

deformed fingers (they are crooked)

Both legs looks strange.

extremely skinny arms.

long forehead,

birthmarks in the face.

incredible bad at talking with people (i suspect that I have some kind of light damage to the brain)

weird voice.

hairy.

unibrow.

skin that protrudes at the nails.

Hiatus hernia.

strange / ugly hair.

big ears.

virgin and unkissed even though I'm so old.

Not had friends irl for 12 years. I do have 2 internet friends thought (2 guys who are like me)

Dyslexia.

stupid, low iq.

poor eyesight.

afraid of dogs and cats.

will never have a good job and never have a lot of money.

sometimes there are a lot of embarrassing random leak and saliva out of my mouth.

ugly looking teeth and they are yellow.

Sometimes I stammer.

blinks a lot with the eyes.

licking my lips alot.

extreme dandruff (no schampoo helps me)

sweats a lot and often, i use soap and rollon and try different versions .... but of course its not working.

Snores loud/weird according to my brothers. I sound like a car (?)

sleeping problems. Whick makes me look tired and sad.

no clothes suits me. I look ugly in everything.

long neck.


Etc. I can just keep going. I tried everything to fix my flaws but nothing is working. How i am supposed to live a normal life with all these flaws. I dont ever see myself getting friends and a wife.

[Zinok]

First off, no woman is going to be attracted to a negative attitude and someone who dislikes themselves.
You don`t have to be attractive in order to find a partner. Perhaps you wont be attracting models, but a winning personality can compensate for all kinds of physical flaws. But no one is going to want you if you don`t want you.
So, if you`re serious about finding a partner, seek professional help. Improve your confidence. Pick up a hobby. Do something to better yourself. Do something that makes you feel good about yourself. No one is going to want to be around you if all you do is wallow in self pity.

[ljubo]

First off, no woman is going to be attracted to a negative attitude and someone who dislikes themselves.
You don`t have to be attractive in order to find a partner. Perhaps you wont be attracting models, but a winning personality can compensate for all kinds of physical flaws. But no one is going to want you if you don`t want you.
So, if you`re serious about finding a partner, seek professional help. Improve your confidence. Pick up a hobby. Do something to better yourself. Do something that makes you feel good about yourself. No one is going to want to be around you if all you do is wallow in self pity.

i dont have a negative attitude, i am just saying the truth. i dont dislike myself, i am just trying to look at my chances to be in a relationship and i cant see it happen with all those flaws i have.

i know i dont have to be attractive to find a partner, but i am very very ugly and that turns people off.

[Zinok]

i dont have a negative attitude, i am just saying the truth. i dont dislike myself, i am just trying to look at my chances to be in a relationship and i cant see it happen with all those flaws i have.

i know i dont have to be attractive to find a partner, but i am very very ugly and that turns people off.

You do have a negative attitude. Your whole post was you shitting on yourself, saying you`ll never have friends or a wife. That`s negative. Add delusional to your list, if you`ve truly convinced yourself you don't have a negative outlook on life/yourself.

Which really just reinforces my "seek professional help" advice. You clearly can't work through this on your own, but you also don't deserve to feel miserable and like you'll never have closeness with another human being. Go work on your self esteem. If you actually want to get better and are legitimately asking for help, than this is the only way for you to work through your multitude of issues. I assure you, it is your attitude right now that is turning people off. Lots of ugly people have friends. Lots of ugly people have partners.

[ljubo]

You do have a negative attitude. Your whole post was you shitting on yourself, saying you`ll never have friends or a wife. That`s negative. Add delusional to your list, if you`ve truly convinced yourself you don't have a negative outlook on life/yourself.

Which really just reinforces my "seek professional help" advice. You clearly can't work through this on your own, but you also don't deserve to feel miserable and like you'll never have closeness with another human being. Go work on your self esteem. If you actually want to get better and are legitimately asking for help, than this is the only way for you to work through your multitude of issues. I assure you, it is your attitude right now that is turning people off. Lots of ugly people have friends. Lots of ugly people have partners.

telling the truth does not make me negative. if someone has only one arm and he says it, it does not make him a negative person.

how can i ever get friends and a girlfriend with all those flaws i have? how can there be any hope for me?

i am not delusional, do you know me more than i do?

i already have 2 therapists! it has not helped me a bit.

there is nothing wrong with my self esteem, the problem is my flaws. if i ever gonna get friends and a girlfriend its not up to me because i can not change who i am its up to others to accept me for who i am. but that will never happen if we are being realistic.

the only help i am asking for is how i can accept being alone my whole life, i have been alone since i was 17 and i am 26 now, i am expecting nothing to change until i die, but i feel bad about it so i want to find a way to accept this lonely life.

and what about all those ugly people who never had friends and partners. also i am not ugly, i am very very ugly. and i have no social skills and social status....