Boyfriend didn't stay with me when I was sick, need advice please

[patatipatata]

We have been together for 2 months, and decided to spend Easter together in my flat.

On Monday I've had to go to the doctor with a stomach bug. I didn't sleep very well and was very tired. Ended up having to take antibiotics.

I was very tired on Monday after lunch and went to my bed to take a nap, whilst he was on the living room. He came to the bedroom after about 10 minutes asking me if I want to go with him to a shop he likes and wanted to go. I felt this was a bit selfish since I was sick and was in bed! I ended up saying yes and we went to the shop.

When we came back to mine, I went to bed again and he stayed in the living room and must have felt bored because out of the blue he came to the bedroom to tell me he was leaving.

He didn't ask me if I want him to stay with me or if I want for him to leave so I could rest. I also never told him to leave. So, he didn't ask me anything, not even if I'll be ok on my own or if I needed him to do something. He just said he was leaving and he did.

I was left alone sick, tired, and questioning what's going on. I mean, if I was fine and in my normal self, he probably would have stayed the night.

It would have been nice of him if he had stayed and offered to get me a soup or make me a soup or whatever. At least not leaving me alone in my flat when I was sick with an infection and feeling vulnerable. OR at least it would have been nice if he asked or said something about it before he left my flat.

I feel sad about this and next day he asked me how I feel through text message, I responded something very briefly because I didn't even want to talk to him.

Am I overacting or am I just spending my time with a selfish person? Should I talk to him about this? Thank you.

[Zinok]

You guys have been dating for two months- it's not serious yet, but it's also a reflection of the type of boyfriend he will be in the future. I don't think it's a huge deal that he didn't want to stick around with you while you were sick, you're presumably an adult, and can take care of yourself. But it was insensitive for him to get you out of bed and then to leave without asking if you needed anything or showing concern for your well being.

Personally I think that if he's great all the time except for this, give him a pass. It's new and you can have a conversation with him when you're better to talk about how you felt abandoned and wished he'd acted differently. Then if in the future when you're sick he's better, great, problem solved. But if it becomes a reoccurring issue, evaluate if you want to be with someone who doesn't take your needs into consideration.
However, if you don't think he's great all the time except for this, if you are only so-so on him, or if there have been other red flags, then cut it off. It'll hurt way less to do it at the two month mark, and it'll open you up to find new partners who care about your needs.

Best of luck, whatever you decide.

[Gray]

He might not have though it the way you see it. To him, he feels he has done nothing to offend you and he acted right. So, that's why you should have made him know his wrong immediately he wanted to leave.

For any relationship to work, there must be communication. In your case, there is no communication.

[Sandra]

This is already a red-flag for you, and it simply shows that he doesn't love you as much as you think. He might just be with you because of sex. So, I will advice you be careful in your relationship with him.