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  • I need help. I don't understand

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    [INDENT]I love my wife deeply and sincerely. Having said that, we are currently separated due to a number of circumstances.

    I will elaborate considerably in my next post but would like to know any opinions I may be provided on the attached text. I'd ask my wife for clarity in information regarding this but I don't want her to a in feel as though I'm over analyzing or asking her to change her words to suit me.
    Essentially, what does her reply mean in faithfulness toward us.
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    The below is our text string that I need help with understanding. Is there sincerity in remaining faithful, has she already crossed that line, is it just her personality.... Etc...

    Her - This doesn't mean we are all good, it means let's see if we can get along.
    Me- Get along, ok. Can I feel as though it's getting along toward a future for us together?
    Me- I know things aren't all good. I just want you to stay my wife and I your husband at least for now.
    Her- Let's just see if we can get along first
    Me- Ok. With faithfulness toward each other?

  • #2
    I'm going to be a little hard on you here, but it is important that I make the point. You really need to see the point.

    You need to quit "poking her with a stick". That is exactly what your questions are feeling like to her. They are annoying. I even felt it a little bit when I read them. You're questions are full of neediness, validation seeking, and uncertainty. It is the exact opposite of what I guy should put on display to have a woman feel confident and secure around the guy and to make her want to follow his lead.

    You should be the one encouraging her that things will go well and that they will work out. You should be the one saying, "Don't worry, I've got this". You should be the leader in the relationship,...not the scared puppy dog cowering at her feet, which is what the statements above make you appear as. Just ask yourself, "How would James Bond handle this?",...and then do what ever James Bond would do.

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    • #3
      From your conversation with her, it shows she is open to a reconciliation. However, she doesn't want to rush into it, but want to take things slow.

      So, I will advice you take things slow with her. Probably things will work out between you both and come back together.

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      • #4

        How can you ask us to comment on her sincerity in remaining faithful when you didn`t let us see her response in regards to that question? We have literally zero information to go off of.

        I agree with the other guys though, stop coming off as needy and whiney. She already said she`s open to seeing if you two can get along. Clearly things got bad between you two. So instead of nettling her, asking for validation and her to agree that you`re working towards getting back together, just focus on the thing she said she is open to- seeing if you two can get along again!

        Think back to what made you two fall in love in the first place. What things have changed since then? How can you move back to that initial place? What did you do then that made her love you? Do those things. Show her you`re willing to take action, not just wanting placating words.

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