What the heck is going on here? I'm confused!

[aishaluv]

My older bf (46), told me(29) that this upcoming weekend we were not going to see each other because he was going to go back to the city where he lived before with his ex wife, and that he was going to do some things, like look for a ground (property) to build a house that his mom/him was interested in,, he is going to visit 2 friends, and was also going to go back to his Ex Wife home to look for some stuff that he still had there, (even though he has his storage over there) so I don’t even know why he still has some of his belongings wondering around in her house. And on top of that he will stay to sleep there.
Am I overreacting here or is this too much??. He asked me if i was alright with him sleeping in her house or not!, I answered that i trusted him(stupid me,now I feel like a fool, cause this is wrong!! I did not want drama so I decided to not say how I felt), but now i feel angry and impotent. We have 2 months together they got divorce 5 years ago. What should i do? He is in his mid 40s and she is 58.
I Really don’t want an older man to make me look like a fool, what is your advice? break up or talk straight forward to him. He has been really nice,kind and generous with me I don’t want to screw it up, but I also don't want to be taken as an idiot/fool.

[Olivia]

You aren't over-reacting in any way. It's absolutely wrong for him to sleep at his ex wife's house. You already made the mistake of agreeing to him sleeping there.

So, I'll advice you call him and tell him you aren't comfortable with him being there.

[Sammy]

The fact is that we all still have some feelings for our ex's. Your boyfriend sleeping at his ex wife's house is going to awaken those feelings. However, just keep your fingers crossed and hope nothing happens between them.