I got my lesbian co worker Pregnant

[WiseOne1]

So we’ll call her Jane. Shes a beautiful girl at my job. All the guys chase her but there is one issue she’s a young lesbian, 21 years old to be exact, I’m 28.

So like other guys at my job I find myself attracted to her. I was able to form a stronger bond with her versus the other guys at my job. Which basically ensured that she had a some form of trust in me.

Like all guys I attempted to flirt with her sometimes getting nowhere but as we spent more time she became more open to my flirts with some .6 months into our friendship I was able to talk her into trying sex with me. Now she says that she’s had a boyfriend before but that she was a virgin.

We had sex unprotected sex. She later advised me two weeks later they her period was late. She automatically suggested an abortion as she’s not into guys and she feels that she’s too young to have kids. At first I agreed, I do have feelings for her and advised her to keep it and let’s try a relationship.

She stated she doesn’t know how she feels about me, that she’s not sure she has any feelings but admits that she definitely doesn’t see me as a friend.

She now seems more open to keeping the baby. I really don’t know if we can work on the relationship side. She just can’t put her interest for women aside can she?

Another thing is I’ve also cheated on my long term Gf of 5 years with her. So I’m sure that is over once I tell her. I know cheating is terrible, me and the SO have really been on rocks for the last year.

Has anyone heard of a man having a successful relationship with a lesbian? And yes people I know lesbians are primarly attracted to women, but she makes it seems like I have some sort of chance plus she has dated 1 guy before and admits that she loved him.

[WiseOne1]

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[Charles]

I am a man married to a lesbian. My wife tells me she was always attracted to women from a young age. She dated two guys in high school out of social pressure (her cheerleader friends were boy crazy and she thought dating guys was a way to fit in). My wife came out as a junior in high school. This was in the 90’s before it was cool. She was the first person she knew to come out.

After coming out, she dated only women for the next 20 years. I met her during this time. She dated 3 during the first 10 years I knew her and “married” the last (in a non-legal ceremony). I was married during this time. We developed a good friendship during this time. She told me she never understood her attraction to me during this time. She always considered herself a lesbian and never had an attraction to any other guy.

My ex and I split shortly after she broke up with her ex. We reconnected and she decided to give it a try with me. We have been together 4 years now and have 3 kids.

She says if we broke up, she could never see herself with another guy and would go back to dating women.

I would say in a romantic relationship, it can work between a lesbian and a man, but the woman would have to find the man to be the exception she could have a sexual relationship with. At least, that’s how it works in my experience.

[Gloria]

Well yes, this is the case for me actually. However I didn't identify as gay when we met although I'd had one encounter with a woman before him. During the early part of our relationship I fell pregnant and he left me! I had a baby and had relationships with women but never fell in love. After two years he came back in my life ( I'd had a hard time and I was very weak, I was also a mother to his child) so I let him back in. It's been a rollercoaster of 17 years and he is 16 years older! we have two children together. I love him but I don't enjoy sex ( I shut down, I hate it), and if our relationship ended I would not choose another man, I would definitely choose a woman .. I would love to be with a woman, unfortunately I am no good a no strings affairs! I get too emotionally involved and fall fast! My family is more important to me than my sexual preference or identity .. if I didn't have children things would definitely be different. I met a gay woman who I totally adored and nearly broke up with my male partner, she turned on me really quickly and told me I wasn't gay and she didn't do bi sexual's etc and got a bit crazy after one date! I had told him I am gay and I was resolute it was over, fortunately I got to see her dark side early enough to a save my relationship, I chose my teenage kids over and above everything! She wanted everything immediately! So I'm glad I didn't chuck away 17 years on a whim .. but she was wrong .. I loved her. The older I get the stronger the 'force' becomes, I just want to scream out I'm gay and leave my old life behind .. but I can't.