My grandpa's death is affecting my relationship

[trenton35]

A few months ago, my grandpa died from complications in his lungs. He and I were very close since I’ve lived with him since I was young. He was a father figure to me. In fact, I was closer to him than my real father which explains why his death has affected me so much. I feel as if there is a huge void in my heart which nothing and no one can fill in, not even my gf.

Recently, my gf opened up to me telling me that she feels that I’m being distant to her. Honestly, I think she’s right. But it doesn’t mean I don’t want her anymore. I’m serious about her ever since I met her, I’ve thought about our future. However, at this moment in time, I’m just in a difficult situation and I’m trying my best to cope with what has been happening as soona s possible. She doesn’t seem to understand though. What should I do?

[Clinton]

Sorry about you GrandPa. You need to explain to your girlfriend all you have said here about your emotions. She will definitely understand.

[trenton35]

Thanks man. I didn't really tell her this because I didn't want to look weak.. but I realize, we're all just human beings with emotions.

[Julia]

I think you need to stop acting distance and get over your Grandpa's death, and focus on your relationship. Otherwise you will end up losing your girlfriend soon.

[trenton35]

Wish it was easy "getting over" his death. To me, it was like losing a parent.