Lack of attention

[Samcharles1000]

I was in love with my girlfriend, she loves me she felt like she can't stay a day without me, she call all time text and I reciprocate, after some months she stop calling, if I call she might not pick if she picks up she will just talk like she don't want talk to u, even if they bringing up topic her response kills it, I asked her WATS going on she said nothing I tried severally to fix up things if I had offended her but she said I did nothing wrong, recently I called her she refused to pick up I asked her why she is not picking up she said nothing, then I told her to open up to me what's the problem she said nothing that she is just tired of the relationship, I ask her if she wants a breakup she said what ever I decide, I ask her if I could give her a distance she said anything I decide, right now and lost in confusion and I really love her don't want to let her go, and since we have been dating I don't miss dropping an SMS every night, so when that sudden change she act as if she don't see my SMS again and am still texting so what do I do?

[Samcharles1000]

Please need an urgent answer

[Jane]

She has obviously completely lost interest in you. Now, isn't the time to start calling and texting her to take you back. The best thing you can do now is to give her space. That means, no calling, texting or any form of contact. This way, she will have time to think about the relationship and know if she wants to be with you.

Like the saying, "absent makes the heart grow fonder." Giving her space might eventually make her miss you and want to be with you.

[Scot]

One of the best tactics to get your girlfriend back is to accept that, for now at least, the relationship is over. This doesn't mean that you are giving up on her entirely. It does mean that she's going to see that you're mature enough to accept that things aren't the way they used to be. When a couple breaks up, one tends to take the split much harder. That's the person who typically calls the other crying, pleading and begging for another chance. You absolutely do not want to be that person. If you are, your girlfriend is going to label you as desperate and an emotional mess and she'll want nothing more to do with you ever. You want her to see that you're supportive of her need for space and time.

Another approach that you should be taking if your goal is a future with the woman you still love is to stay focused on your own life. It's easy to get caught up in mourning the lost relationship but if you do this, you're not going to get her back. Instead, work on improving who you are and keep yourself busy socially. Get out and have fun. This doesn't necessarily mean you should be dating other women, but you do need to hang out with groups of friends. Your ex will hear that you're doing fine and this will nag at her. If you can show her that you're fine without her it will actually make her want you. Once a woman gets a sense that she doesn't mean everything to her anymore, it makes her want you more.

[bdog]

She has obviously completely lost interest in you. Now, isn't the time to start calling and texting her to take you back. The best thing you can do now is to give her space. That means, no calling, texting or any form of contact. This way, she will have time to think about the relationship and know if she wants to be with you.

Like the saying, "absent makes the heart grow fonder." Giving her space might eventually make her miss you and want to be with you.

I generally agree with this, other than the absoluteness of the assertions. I think there is very little chance to rekindle a relationship with someone who has lost interest. However, if there is any hope, it is dashed by neediness. I think not initiating any communication for at least a month is your best shot. If you don't hear anything, then in my view it isn't going to work.

I'm sorry for your pain. It is tough to be in this situation.

[TheDarkOne]

That must hurt a lot. It really sounds as though she isn't bothered anymore. Some ladies liked to be chased but she would of responded by now. Don't contact her anymore, see if she contacts you but I wouldn't wait for her. Move on and try to find someone else who does want to be with you.