Am I overthinking, or am I justified at having my feelings hurt

[Theassassin316]

I have been in a relationship for awhile now, we are at the I love you stage, I for one know I want to grow old with her, and spend the rest of my life with this beautiful creation!! However I digress, she has told me many times that she considers my son and myself, that she considers us her family!!! recently I attended her sons graduation, and afterwards while taking pictures with him (one by one, and sometimes a group of people, never the whole family at once I might add) as I was congratulating him on his achievement my girlfriend told her sons girlfriend "to come take a picture with him and her since she was apart of this family" meanwhile I'm standing there being completely bypassed of any such invites, to take a "family picture", afterwards while at her house, and me biting my tongue, about how I felt left out, I decided to go home, soon there after she mentioned that her and the family were going swimming, and yet again Neither me nor my son were invited to the family activity!! When I brought up the fact that I felt un noteworthy, and disregarded, (without any details) her response was that she didn't know what to say!!! question is this, am I just being selfish/needy in wanting to be included in a family event such as a photo with the family, as she said we were now apart of? Or should I just suck it up? It truly hurt me, and am worried that me and my son will be overlooked, anytime that her family is around!!!

[bdog]

That does sound unpleasant. I don't think you are overthinking things, especially with her reaction to your question. Perhaps she is taking you for granted? If so, maybe you could back off on your pursuit for a while. I have a situation right now that makes me feel similar. In my case, I have only been seeing this girl for 6 weeks. She cancelled on a day trip we were going to take today because she had to work. She accepted my invitation to breakfast before work, but cancelled on that as well at the last minute because she needed to babysit her sister's children. My plan is to wait for her to initiate contact. I hesitate to compare your lengthy relationship to this which has been little more than a fling, but I think the principal is still valid.

[Kate]

When I brought up the fact that I felt un noteworthy, and disregarded, (without any details) her response was that she didn't know what to say!!!

I know you should be hurt by her actions but I can confidently tell you that she does these things unconsciously. She's probably not conscious of doing it, whereas you take note of them.

Quiet people tend to act this way more, so if your girlfriend is the quiet type then you should take such actions as her personality. Therefore, you must always bring it to her consciousness immediately she does things like this in the future.

You just met her, so you both are still getting to know yourself better. I will advice you to be patient with her.