Work and...married guy

[Banshee]

Maybe everyone knows he's married and he's being sneaky. He will do the exact same thing to you if you are unwise enough to get involved with him. He will ignore you if there are other people around.
The more you say about this guy, the less I like him. Please don't entertain fantasies about him. Not saying you are, but please don't start. He's a colleague and nothing more.

[Speranta18]

Banshee what did you write to him during the time you had a crush ?

[Banshee]

I didn't write to him. We worked together and were friendly but not in a close way.

[Speranta18]

So he blushes and ignores me In public unless i say something wich i dont....but when no people around he is happy and makes conversation....staring at me

[Banshee]

Well, he has plausible deniability if he only does it in front of you. He doesn't want to start gossip. But this really can't go anywhere, so I would suggest you what I did in my situation (which was different because he didn't show he was attracted to me. He was just friendly to me as he was to everyone else.) I would put any thoughts of a relationship with him out of my head and date available guys. He may be attracted to you, but what good does it do you if he is married?

[Speranta18]

Banshee,so when he passes by my desk tries to wave serious and his friend behind him starts laughing...then when he stands up on other side of room looks at me for a second and sits down...sometimes i do that as well

[Speranta18]

Yes...and i respect that.His wife can divorce him if she gets upset and cancel his visa ( he is from south america ) and i dont want him to have problems ... She is a nice lady probably but i still dont want problems for him even though i like him....

[daisiblanchard]

Yes, it is perfectly ok to be friends with a married guy until and unless you are feeling safe about it.