Sexual double standard?

[Omnious]

So me and my gf have been together for just over a year now. It was going great at first, the last few months have been rocky between drama with our friends etc. The situation as it is, she has been staying with her dad now for about a week she plans on coming home soon. There was medical issues I won't get into right now, but for the last month probably stress related before she went to her fathers house we weren't very sexually active. She blamed it on stress which I firmly believe was the case her job was horrible on her, this isn't the current problem however. The current problem to me, is that she has developed a kind of sexual double standard. Now that she has been staying with her father and we weren't sexually active for roughly a month I'm now at the stage where I am horny all the time. Before the month of no sex she had a much higher sex drive than me. I felt inadequate as I couldn't keep up. There is an age difference as well. I'm 30, she's 19, that has never been the problem in the past and she seems into that. But now that I'm horny all the time it's become somehow a problem? where as before she was horny all the time, I wasn't into it because I couldn't keep up and that was apparently fine and I should deal with it. What's further on that is at the time we were having lots of sex and the odd time I was not in the mood for it she felt as if it was a problem. That I was "no longer into her" or something. Which wasn't the case, I just couldn't keep up. But now that the tables have basically turned it's a huge problem and it's now bugging her that I'm horny all the time. How should I deal with this? Just stop talking about sex and sex related things? I'm a man of logic and this seems to allude my logical capabilities.

[Bradwin]

You are horny all the time, and so it's impossible for you not to talk about it. Not talking about it will result in you cheating on her, and of course I know that isn't what you want.

So talk about it all the time with her, however, don't hold any offense if she doesn't reciprocate. The most important thing is that you aired your mind and that's a relief for you.

[Kate]

What's further on that is at the time we were having lots of sex and the odd time I was not in the mood for it she felt as if it was a problem. That I was "no longer into her" or something.

This is the more reason you most keep talking about sex and you being horny. This will let her know you are still into her and desire her.

[Omnious]

Thank you for the responses, and no of course I don't want to cheat on her. I just feel like she's being pushed away by it maybe I don't know. The reason she is there in the first place is to deal with her mental health. She was so stressed out from her job that it was becoming hazardous to her health. I've stressed to her that I love her very much, and I want us to work out. But I'm not sure how long it can go on with her not being here. Especially when I bring anything sexual up she just either gets upset, thinks the relationship is somehow all about sex which I have never insinuated or lead on because of course it isn't. Porn was also a no dice subject when she was here or at work or even not home for a few days she would be directly offended by it. So what am I to do she doesn't want to talk about it, doesn't want me to watch porn, I feel bad when I do because of course I do. There is other things causing stress in the relationship as well, just the effort mainly which I have also stressed to her in the past. She was saying that I was always "grumpy" or upset at her, but it was more the effort of the relationship itself and the living conditions. When it came to anything at home it was legitimately me 100% of the time. I cooked, I cleaned, I took care of the dog, I made sure she could get to where she needed to get to when she needed to get there. Basically my concern right now is finding out some way to convince her to come back home. Because I feel that these problems in the relationship need to be worked out together, not alone. I guess this post kind of turned into a lot more than just a sexual double standard. She says she's enjoying her time at her dads it lets her get back to "being her" being able to be self reliant, and do things on her own and shes scared that when she comes back home she won't continue doing that. She will fall back into her old routine of me basically doing everything for her which was basically the case as I've said. She had no motivation or effort to do anything at all, even going for a walk, going to the beach, going to the movies, it was like nothing at all. Then when it came to house work it was even worse. She wouldn't lift a finger for anything unless I was like visibly upset. But I don't feel like time apart is what was needed to overcome this. This is like a couple issue, this to me needs to be worked out together. Because if it's not worked out together then what happens when she comes back, isn't used to it here again and then falls back into it. At least if it was doing things together we could get into a routine and figure stuff out. I'm not really sure what I'm aiming at with all this I guess just relationship advice from people who have been in these positions before. Do I just let her be? will the time apart kill the relationship like I think it will? Is there any way to reassure her that being here won't lead back down the same road it was before? I feel like I've said everything that needs to be said to her and she's still not exactly making much of an effort to be here. She continuously reassures me that she want's us to work out and wants to be together but I'm not sure, I get very bad anxiety about it. It's honestly driving me crazy.