Am I Unreasonable?

[insecurejerk]

The question I have involves a situation in my relationship that has made me feel very uncomfortable. I wonder if I am being unreasonable, or justified in feeling my relationship has been disrespected. I am a 46 year old male in a committed relationship. Last weekend my girlfriend went to a bar with a girl friend of hers. The girlfriend left earlier than my girlfriend. My girlfriend stuck around because she knew a few people there. She was hanging out with a guy who is a mutual friend of ours. While at this bar, she noticed that someone was checking her out. In conversation with our mutual friend, he bets my girlfriend that if she were to go on to the dance floor by herself that someone would try and hit on her. So she proceeds to the dance floor to see what would happen. My question to you is, should this behavior bother me or is it in reality no big deal?

[Kate]

It's no big deal, we all love being admired because it makes us feel good about ourselves. She only wanted to know if she's desirable by other people, however, she had no intention behind it.

There is nothing to it, so don't let mind play tricks on you.

[Anthony]

I think it's nothing, moreover she didn't kiss another guy at the bar or anything like that. She simply wanted to have fun, and that's the motivation behind what she did.

[bdog]

It doesn't sound unreasonable to me for you to be bothered by this. I strongly believe, however, that I have nothing to be gained by making a female aware that I am insecure or jealous. I think it makes a male look weak, which is not attractive to females. Neither am I a believer in the notion that people in a committed relationship should share everything with each other. I think it is a nice sounding idea, but in my view this is an important exception.