Online obsession help

[watersplash101]

I am currently extremely obsessed/infatuated with this girl I met through the app discord and a video game. We both showed signs of interests for each other and it has been going on for nearly 9 months now. In my head, it is extremely complicated, and I've never experience something so horrible in my life before. It all started when we met through a game we both played, she showed interests in me and gave out multiple signs, but because I'm a very attentive person, I noticed the signs so easily and it got me hooked up ever since and as time goes on, it became stronger and stronger to the point where I wish I had never met her because I'm so obsessed, almost like an addictive drug. We both would stalk each other on discord, the game, and would take notice, but the funny thing is, we both wouldn't budge or confront one another. I believe the reason why we hesitate is because we are shy and I personally don't feel comfortable being in a relationship with someone that I don't know in real life, we also live in opposite world. Sometimes when she isn't online, I would fantasize her being with someone else, making me extremely depressed and sad, and my whole body would feel empty, anxious and uncomfortable. I'm only 17, and no I'm not desperate, I've had several girls taken interests in me during school, but I feel nothing towards them, while the online girl would occupies my mind 24/7. This has started to become a problem in the real life as it hinders my work and my mental health, so I took a step forward to use the internet and search online for help, but none would be able to completely stop this. I can't get her off of my mind, help.

Also, I've looked into this disorder called Obsessive Love Disorder and it seems to perfectly matches all of the symptoms that I have for her.

[Roy]

You haven't even met her in real life and you feel this way about her. I can guarantee you that the day you meet her in real life you will not like her anymore. Online relationship are always like this because it makes you fantasize, and most of those fantasies you have for her aren't real but fake.

So, I'll advice you stop talking to her completely if you can't control this feelings. The reason being that you will eventually get hurt.

[Shirley]

The feelings of obsession you have now is caused by absence. Like they say, "absence make the heart grow fonder." The same is true in your case, since she is absence it makes you fantasize and these fantasies takes over your mind and everything about you.

This best way to get over this is to plan to see her in real life. The day you meet her in real life, these obsession will be gone. However, if you know you have no chance of seeing her in real life, it's best to end the relationship with her at once.

[cloud]

You are pretty young and something tells me that you will eventually get over it and forget about her. Trust me. The fact that you are young also makes this relationship not capable because you said she is on the other side of the world, you are too young to travel around for someone you've never met. You will also regret in the future that you've ignored all these girls for this "online girl". Trust me I speak from experience. And no offense a lot of this has to do with growth and maturity and you will see why and realize everything in the future. Young kids also tend to develop various different types of obsessions. you will remember about this and probably laugh about it.

[Cne]

What you are going through sounds very familiar to me and do not think it is that bad, you are just at the stage where you learning how to love, painting pictures and making up a life with the love of your life that does not really exist. Because she can be anyone or be even a he. So I would advice that you enjoy the game and all you do there but try to separate the game with your real life. find a girl you like and go to movies with her or anything you like, just do not allow the game to take over your eality

[Banshee]

I can only tell you my experience. Whenever I've met anyone I'd only known from online, they were always different from what I'd expected. It really is different being in the same room with somebody than fantasizing about what perfect people we imagine them to be based on what they show us online.
You really don't know a lot about a person you know only from an online connection, and you fill in the gaps with fantasy. She may be doing the same thing.

You sound young and you will get over her in time. You will pretty much have no choice, if she lives very far away from you. It will just take time. Eventually one of you is going to get tired of never seeing the other and move on to greener pastures. In the meantime try to be open to the idea that you may be idealizing this girl into someone she's not.

[SayItIsntSo]

I can tell you maybe why you feel obsessed. Unfortunately we live in a world where communication is mostly done via, text, online chatting and email. So, when you meet someone online it's more of an emotional connection rather then the visual experience you would get meeting someone in person. Men are visual creatures anyway, so the first response would be physical appearances. With this girl you are emotionally and mentally engaged. Lust wears off. Emotional connection stays. My advice would be to maybe talk to her first about what you're feeling. If she responded in the same way a long distance relationship could be formed. The reason you feel 'obsessed' us because you aren't letting your feelings out. That turns to infatuated feelings. Talk to her. Let her respond and go from there. Also, you are quite young so your feelings may seem very intense and that's okay... But, control them. Good luck