Feelings for Housemate

[mike98]

Hey, so I've just finished my second year of uni and have lived with this girl, Eve, for the past two years and have gradually got more and more closer, flirting etc. Little signs over the last few months have escalated my thoughts that she may feel something for me: other housemates asking me what's going on between us, her sister making a comment about us being a couple. About 2 weeks ago our whole house were out at the club, and I drunkenly told her I liked her a lot which she said the same to me, and then I went to kiss her and ended up kissing her cheek and she said sorry and I went off. She tried to call me a couple of times but I ignored and we didn't speak about it but carried on as normal for another week.

This last Friday she brought it up whilst we were at a bar and basically said she was crying after it thinking I wouldn't talk to her and that if she didn't have me she would be broken. She said she just sees me as a friend and doesn't want to ruin our third year living together and the house dynamics, but said maybe something could happen at the end/after uni but that she doesn't want a relationship with anyone right now as she's not in the right headspace. She mentioned not being surprised it happened and that her mum and sisters would always ask her what was happening with us. I had been on a couple of dates with a girl back home and someone must have told Eve as she mentioned this to me and said don't wait around for me, I said I would hold out for her. When we later got home we spoke about it more and she said she wanted to make it clear she just wants to be friends and that's about where things were left as we've all gone home for the summer and I won't see her for another 3 months.

So, I'm still left a little confused as to whether she likes me but doesn't want to ruin things whilst we're still housemates/at uni, or if she just sees me as a friend and that's it? Thanks.

[Malvin]

She obviously likes you but doesn't want to ruin things since you both are housemates at uni. She's only trying to be careful not to lose the friendship she has with you if things doesn't work out in a romantic relationship.

[Bella]

I think you should respect her wish to be friends with her. She may or may not see you more than a friend, but for now what she wants is just being friends. However, if you can stick to being friends with her, there is a probability that she will want to be in a relationship with you in the future.

[mike98]

Sorry for the random thread resurrection, just remembered I'd posted here and thought I'd keep it in one thread.

So basically this year at uni we've got on fine and haven't mentioned anything, the other week we were holding hands walking home and sort of linking arms. She also came home drunk one night and was lying on me but she was drunk and I wasn't so didn't read too much into it.

We had a final big night out before Christmas and we ended up holding hands for a large portion at the end, dancing very closely embracing and cuddling for LONG periods and being very tight and after I made a few passes that mostly ended up on the cheek she briefly gave me a peck on the lips.

She wasn't very drunk and said the next morning she remembered everything before I left to go home for Christmas.

I don't know how obvious this all seems, but would the best thing be to keep things cool and see if anything further develops/ should I even remotely think there's a chance for us? Don't want to keep going round in circles haha.

Thanks!