caught my girlfriend in a big lie

[Zxern]

So here is the situation. My girlfriend 23 still lives at home, and frequently asks me to do favors for her cousin whose between jobs, such as buying food, giving him rides, parts for his car etc. They shared the bedroom and bed in a small house for the first 3 months of our relationship but they've been sleeping apart since the family moved to a new house back in May.

I just found out that he's not actually her cousin, he's her ex boyfriend apparently. I confronted her about it and she confessed that she was scared to tell me because other guys turned her down for dates because of the living situation.

I don't know that I really believe her, she's been lying to me for our entire relationship about this. I'm not sure how to move forward here.

[Camila]

You girlfriend really can't be trusted, if she can lie to you about something like this that is sensitive, she can apparently lie about anything.

You never can tell, she might still be sleeping with him. Since she can ask you for favor for her ex boyfriend, she definitely still loves him. If she isn't in love with him anymore, she won't care about him. The fact that she still care about him proves that she is still into him and might still be sleeping with him.

She isn't emotionally balanced, and she needs to get that right before dating someone else. So, you need to reconsider your relationship with her.

[Malvin]

She lied to you because she doesn't want to lose you. I think you should forgive her but tell her to stop seeing her ex boyfriend. If she completely cut her ex off her life it will be okay for you to continue the relationship with her, however, if she still continues to see him you must end the relationship with her immediately.

[Banshee]

That's a big lie that lasted for a long time. I don't care what her reasons were. The next time she can rationalize lying, she will do it again. Why wouldn't she? If she thinks something will make you leave her, she will lie again.
There are actually honest women out there, and this one could have been straight with you from the beginning if nothing was going on between her and her ex. But she tried to get over.
I don't think she's serious girlfriend material. I wonder what she told the ex about you.

[bdog]

I'm not going to tell you what you should do. I think that's silly. But I will tell you what I would do, were I in a similar situation. I think I would walk away immediately, without getting angry, and try to maintain as much of my dignity as possible.

By the way, sounds like a tough break for you. Hang in there, man.

[derikparle]

Talk to her. ask her why she is lieing. and tell her u want to trust her, and that she doesn't need to lie to u, that she should feel comfortable telling u anything. If she is still lieing to u after u talk to her, then maybe you should move on. there are so many other girls out there

[smackie9]

To hell with the lie, she used you to support this guy, and chauffeur him around.....man you got duped big time.

Judging by your question...you are a push over...no wonder she picked you.


Dude you should be furious and dump her.