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I've been with my bf for 6 years now. I am 22 and he is 20. We don't live together. My sister and I wanted to go on a trip together. We were just talking about taking a trip together since we never got to go on one without our family. Nothing was for sure yet. I was going to book it after I told my boyfriend that I wanted to go on a trip. My sister and him work at the same place and he overheard her talking about possibly going on a trip with me. Now he constantly is saying that I went behind his back. And that I was going to book the trip and just go on it without telling him. But that isnt true. I wasn't even sure about going with her yet. He begged me not to go on the trip with my sister. He says I'm going to mess around with other guys and that he wants to go with us. The thing is, my sister wants to bond with me and I'd like to go on this trip and bond with her. Ever since I started dating this guy he has made me feel bad when I go out with friends or even my family. So she and I haven't really been hanging out as much as we used to be. I have never cheated in my life. He is my first boyfriend. I wouldn't even dare to think about cheating on him. He is afraid my sister and I are going to party, but the thing is, I really do not party or drink or anything. My sister doesn't do any of that as well. I told him so many times that I would never do that. And he still accuses me of these things. The last time my sister and I wanted to go on a trip alone together, he ended up coming even though it was supposed to just be us 2, and it ended up horribly because we were fighting the whole time and it messed up everyone's trip and my sister did not deserve that. I don't want that to happen again. I already went on trips with my bf alone, so its not like I do not travel with him. I definitely do. He told me he isn't sure about us because I went behind his back and he can never forgive me for that. So he is threatening to leave me. Last time I went on a fam trip he kept texting me things like "I'm done with you" and then he would take it back and say "I love you. I'll stay with you" and then his mood would change again and he would threaten to leave over a text message! He refuses to talk to me in person, but over text he will text me mean things to ruin my day. He has admitted to me that he is jealous and insecure. We are young and I feel like we should travel and do these kind of things still. We aren't married. I asked him if he wanted to pick me up from the airport to see me right after I come back tonight and he totally just shut down and wouldn't say a word to me. Now he is texting me if I have any of his things because I think he wants to leave me. I feel so bad about going but being with my family makes me happy and I feel he is making me choose between him and my family. If I don't go then my sister will hate me. And then my parents will be really upset and probably be really angry with me. But if I do go, I lose him. I really want to go on this trip with her. I am more myself around my family and they make me really happy. Especially my sister. Is he right for me to not go? Or should I go? I honestly have no clue where I stand in this situation. I just feel trapped with this guy. I love him but I can't have a life while I am dating him because he constantly needs to be involved in everything I do. I do so much with him. Go on hikes, go swimming, etc. But when I go once with my sister or my mom, he says I do everything with them and not with him. But I feel like I see him WAY more then my family. I don't have many friends because of him either. I am so stuck. The trip is in 2 days and I don't want to fight for the whole duration of it...
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