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There is a woman that I have been seeing for a while, we originally worked together but we were friends then. As we kept talking we got closer and closer. She finally began opening up to me, telling me about her marriage problems, how shes been in a marriage she feels she can't get out of because she has a daughter with him. He's verbally abusive, hes cheated on her, and doesn't even care about what she feels. She would always tell me that the marriage has killed her so much that she barely feels anything anymore and has just come to accept it. I tried giving her advice as best as I could as a person.
After she quit (she was part time) to get a full time job, that is also when she moved out from her husbands house and is currently living with her mom. Because she just can't handle it anymore, but shes told me this has happened multiple times before and she always finds herself being sucked into going back to him. I guess the big difference between those times before and now is...I guess me. One day, from our constant talking to eachother she randomly texted me basically saying she wants to go see a movie with me. So we did, it was just harmless hanging out. Then we started hanging out more and more. She had her daughter wed. through sunday. so monday and tuesday were the days we'd go hangout. We'd do little things like go to the bar together or just aimless walk around downtown. Three weeks ago, we were sitting on a bench by a river and we kissed.
Each week we got closer and closer. Each week I could see the stress she was dealing with because she said she just can't commit even though she wants to. That shes afraid shes still going to get suckered back moving back into her husbands house. The husband found out, and screamed at her then said how he wants to try and fix it. She told me that she knows shes done with him, she knows she needs to leave him, but shes afraid despite me being there with her the entire time. Yesterday we hung out, and he called her screaming at her and we talked for a long time about everything.
She kept telling me how afraid she is, I told her that I believe she can find the strength to do it. And it came to the moment where we agreed that it would be a little easier for her if we stopped talking for the time being, the part that killed me the most but something I agreed on the most.
We sat in my car, because I wanted to just...I guess enjoy the last few moments I would have with her for a while. So we talked more, and then she asked me if I was in love with her. At that point I guess I figured I'd just tell her the truth and I told her I was and she cried saying how she wishes she could say it to me right now but...she's married still and she wants to leave him. It killed me, we kissed one more time and all we said was hope to see eachother soon. Of all the times we spent time together, this was the first day I saw she wasn't wearing her ring. She always wore it even when we hung out, but when I held her hand that night I looked and it wasn't there anymore.
was this the right decision? Did I do the right thing by agreeing to not talking to her for the time being? It's just I'm in this state where I don't know what to do but at the same time I don't want to lose her.
After she quit (she was part time) to get a full time job, that is also when she moved out from her husbands house and is currently living with her mom. Because she just can't handle it anymore, but shes told me this has happened multiple times before and she always finds herself being sucked into going back to him. I guess the big difference between those times before and now is...I guess me. One day, from our constant talking to eachother she randomly texted me basically saying she wants to go see a movie with me. So we did, it was just harmless hanging out. Then we started hanging out more and more. She had her daughter wed. through sunday. so monday and tuesday were the days we'd go hangout. We'd do little things like go to the bar together or just aimless walk around downtown. Three weeks ago, we were sitting on a bench by a river and we kissed.
Each week we got closer and closer. Each week I could see the stress she was dealing with because she said she just can't commit even though she wants to. That shes afraid shes still going to get suckered back moving back into her husbands house. The husband found out, and screamed at her then said how he wants to try and fix it. She told me that she knows shes done with him, she knows she needs to leave him, but shes afraid despite me being there with her the entire time. Yesterday we hung out, and he called her screaming at her and we talked for a long time about everything.
She kept telling me how afraid she is, I told her that I believe she can find the strength to do it. And it came to the moment where we agreed that it would be a little easier for her if we stopped talking for the time being, the part that killed me the most but something I agreed on the most.
We sat in my car, because I wanted to just...I guess enjoy the last few moments I would have with her for a while. So we talked more, and then she asked me if I was in love with her. At that point I guess I figured I'd just tell her the truth and I told her I was and she cried saying how she wishes she could say it to me right now but...she's married still and she wants to leave him. It killed me, we kissed one more time and all we said was hope to see eachother soon. Of all the times we spent time together, this was the first day I saw she wasn't wearing her ring. She always wore it even when we hung out, but when I held her hand that night I looked and it wasn't there anymore.
was this the right decision? Did I do the right thing by agreeing to not talking to her for the time being? It's just I'm in this state where I don't know what to do but at the same time I don't want to lose her.
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