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Is it okay for me to ask him for his phone number?
Hello. I'm a Japanese woman, posting here because I'm scared of someone I know in my real life would read my post if I write something on a Japanese forum.
So please forgive my poor English.
Here is what I've been wondering anxiously so bad these days, the same as the title, is it ok to ask him for his phone number?
There is this guy I met at my work place 3 years ago and we get along well with each other as coworkers. He is 4 years older than I and very serious. We used to be in the same room sitting next to each other but are not anymore, but we talk friendly about our work when we meet us, as friendly as I can say we are good coworkers. I want to get closer to him so I am wondering to ask his phone number but I am hesitating because I afraid that he may not like me invading his private life.
The reasons why I got interested in him are these. I'd be happy if anyone gave me opinions about whether he also likes me or this is only me who is excessively self-conscious.
1. We have our eyes contact and smile at each other every time we meet on corridor.
(Until last year, he looked away when our eyes contacted but since I started giving him a BIG smile when we come across, he has also come to smile at me)
2. When I asked him something about the work the other day, he taught me with a big smile on his face.
(Until last year, when I asked, he did teach me anything very precisely like cutting an onion into teeny-tiny pieces but no smile. So I always used to be sorry for asking him something but not on that day in June this year)
3. We talk friendly about our work but do not about our private things when we are alone.
4. When we talk with few more people who are close to us, we have talked about our private things and I know where he is from, what he was like in his teens, how he was in his soccer team and so on.
5. His attitude toward me is different, depending on what kind of people around him. When we are with his close coworker, he is most cheerful and easy to talk to. He even teases me gently. When his boss is around him, he doesn't even glance at me or even turns his back when he sees me, like saying "never speak to me." And when we are alone, he is kind and nice, trying to make me laugh but I think he almost never starts the conversation unless I speak to him.
6. Last year, I had a chance to go to a theme park with him and his close coworker. While we were in line, I took some funny photos so I said, "I'll send this to you, too. Do you mind telling me your what's app?" and he says, "I don't want that photo" and he didn't tell me his what's app.
7. (Please remember that we are worldly well-known quiet, shy Japanese.lol Like, "Wanna give me a hug? Shameful! You are not my wife/husband, don't touch!"lol I like hugs, though) and he sometimes gets close to me physically and when I do that to him, he doesn't look like he is uncomfortable because he doesn't step back or fold his arms.
I'm sorry for writing this much, but these are the reasons why I want to know him more but am hesitating, especially thinking he has refused to tell me his contact information.
Do you think he would be annoyed if I asked him his phone number? I am also worried about being taken it very odd because I don't need to know his phone number for my work...
So please forgive my poor English.
Here is what I've been wondering anxiously so bad these days, the same as the title, is it ok to ask him for his phone number?
There is this guy I met at my work place 3 years ago and we get along well with each other as coworkers. He is 4 years older than I and very serious. We used to be in the same room sitting next to each other but are not anymore, but we talk friendly about our work when we meet us, as friendly as I can say we are good coworkers. I want to get closer to him so I am wondering to ask his phone number but I am hesitating because I afraid that he may not like me invading his private life.
The reasons why I got interested in him are these. I'd be happy if anyone gave me opinions about whether he also likes me or this is only me who is excessively self-conscious.
1. We have our eyes contact and smile at each other every time we meet on corridor.
(Until last year, he looked away when our eyes contacted but since I started giving him a BIG smile when we come across, he has also come to smile at me)
2. When I asked him something about the work the other day, he taught me with a big smile on his face.
(Until last year, when I asked, he did teach me anything very precisely like cutting an onion into teeny-tiny pieces but no smile. So I always used to be sorry for asking him something but not on that day in June this year)
3. We talk friendly about our work but do not about our private things when we are alone.
4. When we talk with few more people who are close to us, we have talked about our private things and I know where he is from, what he was like in his teens, how he was in his soccer team and so on.
5. His attitude toward me is different, depending on what kind of people around him. When we are with his close coworker, he is most cheerful and easy to talk to. He even teases me gently. When his boss is around him, he doesn't even glance at me or even turns his back when he sees me, like saying "never speak to me." And when we are alone, he is kind and nice, trying to make me laugh but I think he almost never starts the conversation unless I speak to him.
6. Last year, I had a chance to go to a theme park with him and his close coworker. While we were in line, I took some funny photos so I said, "I'll send this to you, too. Do you mind telling me your what's app?" and he says, "I don't want that photo" and he didn't tell me his what's app.
7. (Please remember that we are worldly well-known quiet, shy Japanese.lol Like, "Wanna give me a hug? Shameful! You are not my wife/husband, don't touch!"lol I like hugs, though) and he sometimes gets close to me physically and when I do that to him, he doesn't look like he is uncomfortable because he doesn't step back or fold his arms.
I'm sorry for writing this much, but these are the reasons why I want to know him more but am hesitating, especially thinking he has refused to tell me his contact information.
Do you think he would be annoyed if I asked him his phone number? I am also worried about being taken it very odd because I don't need to know his phone number for my work...
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