Brother in law

[Issuesman]

I'm getting married soon to someone who has a twin sister, whose husband I get on well with. They have been married a couple of years. I go out with him now and again with some of his mates.

A couple of months ago, when we were in a club, after we'd been drinking most of the day, I noticed he'd taken his wedding ring off. This is a replacement wedding ring after he'd lost his original one, again on a night out, though he'd passed it off as not being sure what had happened to it.

I'm thinking of having a man to man talk with him this weekend, to tell him A) that I wouldn't be happy having this on my conscience if this were to happen again when I am married to his wife's sister, and B) to consider trying to break the habit of taking it off when out.

The four of us are very close. I'm sure he wouldn't go any further but know that his wife would be upset if she knew this was happening.

Am I doing the right thing?

[Rob]

B) to consider trying to break the habit of taking it off when out.

This is a better option! However, you must tell him in the most polite manner as possible.

[Anthonia]

Am I doing the right thing?

Emphatically yes! While you have this discussion with him, just make sure you choose your words in order not to make him angry.