Feel like I won't ever date or get a boyfriend?

[cunnie]

I am 23 and never had a boyfriend before or dated. I am 5'4 and 119 lbs but no guys seem interested in me. I used to think I am not ugly but now I am starting to think I am because I never get male attention. I haven't tried online dating but whenever I go out, men never hit on me, flirt, or approach me. I never even have had a guy ask for my number or leave his number. I feel like I won't ever date anyone or get a boyfriend. It honestly makes me so sad because I hear stories of other women getting hit on so much by men but this practically never happens to me. I feel like other women have it so easily but I have it so hard and I don't understand why. I feel so forever alone.

[Rob]

Let's make this a quick one because I'm sure you're VERY *curious* on how to attract men by doing this technique.

Men have what they call the "B-Shield" (I'll leave it up to your imagination what B stands for). It's when women put up a mean and intentionally appear, dare I say it, bitchy. It's also the one thing that women are doing that KILL any chances of attracting men and meeting any decent guys. So this blog post is going to be about a technique on how to attract men that I call the "Un-B Shield."

(As you can see, I never had a knack for naming things...)

If there's one thing that you must know about how to attract men, it's that we live in CONSTANT FEAR of rejection. And boy, is that ever true when it comes to approaching women. The thought of approaching a woman he doesn't know can literally freeze a man up and make him absolutely weak in his knees. I have seen this happen (hell, it's happened to me!) and believe me, it is NOT a pretty sight.

When a man sees a woman that catches his eye, this is a very brief summary of the thought sequence that is most likely going through his mind:

"Wow, she's pretty. I should say something. But what if she doesn't like me? I just want to let her know that I think she's cute. But if I do, I'm just going to bother her. She looks busy and looks like she does not want to be interrupted. Forget it..."

How would you like it if an attractive man walked up to you, smiled warmly, and said this without being creepy:

"Excuse me, this might sound a little random, but I just had to let you know that I think you are cute."

Would that bother you at all? No, I would bet that something like that would flatter you and make the rest of your day.

Guess what, ladies? HE DOES NOT KNOW THAT. So why do some women actually think that being coy and appearing stand-offish is seductive and is beneficial when it comes to how to attract men? That is a HUGE NO-NO.

The Un-B Shield is really simple. If you want to attract a man who is walking towards you, simply look him in the eye. If he's paying attention, he will look back at you. As soon as you two make eye contact, give him a warm smile and mouth the words, "Hi."

The key here is your SMILE. That's it, that's how you attract a man.

A woman's smile (especially if you're smiling at US) can melt any man's defenses almost instantaneously. He will be like putty in your hands. What you do afterward is completely up to you.

What do you do if you're in a place where he's standing still and isn't walking, say, a bookstore? How do you attract men in situations like these, I hear you ask? That's easy. Simply position yourself somewhere he can see you, and make some sort of sound. Clear your throat. Or simply look at him, and act as if you're about to say something. Then do the same thing.

Teenage girls are EXPERTS at this.

When they see someone cute, they make noises and giggle. A lot. They stare at the guy. That gets the guy's attention (I mean, c'mon - you can FEEL it whenever someone is looking at you). When the guy looks, they turn and giggle even more. What's funny is, they attract men this way, and more often than not, they end up meeting the guy.

Try the Un-B Shield the next time you go out and want to know how to attract men. I guarantee that you will witness something amazing.

[Rachael]

I will discuss how to get a guy to notice you in simple and powerful steps even you do not know that guy before. These steps are for those who have noticed a guy and want him to notice her back (getting him to fall in love to you is a whole other story).

Luckily, getting a guy to notice you is easier because it involves the use of basic social skills. You should be honest, direct, pleasant, and reasonable. Here are the ways:

If you don't know the guy

1. Smile and make eye contact

Whether it is closed-mouth or open-mouth, just do it. Unless it really makes you feel artificial, learn how to shoot people a reassuring smile, letting them know that you're a happy and confident person who wants to enjoy life. The idea is to communicate that you're inviting their company

2. Establish communication

Just say "hi" or "hello" is the simplest way to get him noticed you. Some girls would get the guys phone or cell phone number just to talk to guys. Some of the guys would not like having the girls to have this kind of first move.

Talk to him to try to get to know him a little by discussing things you have in common. A good way to start a conversation is to ask him a question. Listen to him and don't interrupt him when he is talking. You could even compliment him or ask for help.

3. Make friends with him

Be with the flow. Making friends with him is one sure way of establishing a relationship. It is good that you make friends with him at first to get you notice. A serious relationship often starts in friendship. Who knows what will happen in the end. By doing this you will know each other more often.

4. Get to know him better

Find what he likes in a girl. Go with what he likes. Know his lifestyle or activities from day to day. If the guy goes jogging everyday in a particular time then go and jog with him. Then talk to him in a friendly manner and don't let him notice that you like him or you're doing this for him.

If you happen to know or you are already a friend with the guy

1. Make a connection with him by knowing what you do and like both.

Having same hobbies or activities will help you be noticed. Joining the same club or working together is one key to be able to get to know more about him.

2. Dress well to catch an attention

Get a new look. Don't change who you are, just try something different. Try a new hairstyle, new clothes, etc. It's a good idea to change things up once in a while, just because variety is the spice of life, and it might help you catch his eye. Try being that tough girl who is different from all the other okay looking girls giving him the eyes, because beauty is common, but a good outlook and a great energy are very rare.

3. Flirt with him.

Do it as little or as much as you want, but remember that too much flirting (especially with other guys) will likely get him to take notice, but perhaps not in a good way. If he reacts and you don't think its real (he's just doing it because you're there and you're a girl and he thinks he can do better, let him know he can't). If he is faking it, call his bluff and say something that makes him know you don't think he is 'all that'. For example, if he comes close, pull a face and offer him gum. This will unbalance his ego.

4. Try to be around him often.

Take interest in the activities he's interested in, not just so that you can get near him but also so that you can get to know him better and so you can broaden your own horizons. (But never pretend to love something you don't even like just because he likes it! Although most guys find this cute, when and if they ever find out, it can be painful for you, and usually unnecessary.)

5. Be Yourself

Just be your own self and remember some first impression do seem to last. Most of the girls find their selves acting awkwardly when facing or meeting with the one they like. Being with yourself let the guy knows who you really are. Don't overdo anything. Pretending to be like someone you are not, just to impress this guy is not good.

Finally, you can't get everyone to notice you. Remember that guys come and go, so do not stress yourself if things do not work out in your favor. You are a normal, complete person all on your own, and you don't need a guy's attention to be happy. But remember, being too obsessive can do the opposite of what you want to achieve, pushing him farther away. If he just won't become attracted to you, leave it alone. Do not push it, or things might get ugly, and you'll earn a bad reputation. Good luck, girl!