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My fiancé and I had a disagreement last night he called me when he got off work and said he was going to go have a drink to help him wind down from his day. His back was also hurting. He hardly ever drinks so I said ok that’s fine. I was tired when I said it so he thought I sounded upset in my voice. So he came home and said he wasn’t going to go. I told him he’s fine he can go I understood if he needed a little time to himself. He still decided not to go he said he should be at home with his fiancé. After about 30 minutes I was telling him about how my day was bad at work, I was venting to him a little. I don’t ever vent to him about my job unless it’s a really bad day. I don’t want to stress him out, but this time I had to lean on him for support. The neighborhood dogs were barking so he got mad about that and He was a little irritated that i told him about my day he said why complain about it when I can’t change it. I told him sometimes it’s nice to vent to your spouse to get it off your chest but I told him I won’t tell him anymore I will tell someone else. then he accidentally spilled Coke Zero on his chest and his phone which was on his chest so he got upset and said I need a F-ing drink. So I was in shock that he was just going to jump up and leave so I said wait why are you going to leave now. So he then said well I will just wait until you go to sleep then I will go out.
That upset me because, as I explained to him, no woman wants to hear that there spouse is going to go out to the bar as soon as they fall asleep. That’s when the fight started we went round and round from 8:30-11:30. In that he told me the problem is that I talked to him too soon after he got off work and he wanted time for me to just leave him alone. He said we have already discussed this before about him needing an hour and I should know that by now that he needs time. He said he doesn’t want me to tell him about my day because it’s too upsetting to him. He said on the phone I sounded sad so he stayed home even though I told him multiple times to go. I told him I wasn’t sad that I just was tired and had a bad day. He then told me I need to perk up on the phone then. He said I need to get used to the fact that he may go out of the house when I am asleep and that if he tells me I just need to say ok and not comment on it.
He said he feels like I don’t respect him as a husband or leader of the house. My point to him was I told him 3 times he could go and he said no then when we are actually sitting down spending time together he felt then that he had to leave. I also explained that no GF, fiancé, wife etc. wants to here their significant other say “when you fall asleep I’m going to the bar.” I told him he could have already been gone and came home in the time we have been arguing and we would have had a great night but he was so wishy washy about going that it was frustrating to me. There was a lot of things said but we are ok now. I feel a lot after fights it’s all my fault and that I am just constantly Messing up and not being a good wife or future wife to him.He gets super mad if I interrupt him and tells me to hush he claps his hands until I stop talking and he said he was going to throw his coke can threw the wall. He gets so upset it’s hard for me to even express my feelings. Any outside perspective would be appreciated.
That upset me because, as I explained to him, no woman wants to hear that there spouse is going to go out to the bar as soon as they fall asleep. That’s when the fight started we went round and round from 8:30-11:30. In that he told me the problem is that I talked to him too soon after he got off work and he wanted time for me to just leave him alone. He said we have already discussed this before about him needing an hour and I should know that by now that he needs time. He said he doesn’t want me to tell him about my day because it’s too upsetting to him. He said on the phone I sounded sad so he stayed home even though I told him multiple times to go. I told him I wasn’t sad that I just was tired and had a bad day. He then told me I need to perk up on the phone then. He said I need to get used to the fact that he may go out of the house when I am asleep and that if he tells me I just need to say ok and not comment on it.
He said he feels like I don’t respect him as a husband or leader of the house. My point to him was I told him 3 times he could go and he said no then when we are actually sitting down spending time together he felt then that he had to leave. I also explained that no GF, fiancé, wife etc. wants to here their significant other say “when you fall asleep I’m going to the bar.” I told him he could have already been gone and came home in the time we have been arguing and we would have had a great night but he was so wishy washy about going that it was frustrating to me. There was a lot of things said but we are ok now. I feel a lot after fights it’s all my fault and that I am just constantly Messing up and not being a good wife or future wife to him.He gets super mad if I interrupt him and tells me to hush he claps his hands until I stop talking and he said he was going to throw his coke can threw the wall. He gets so upset it’s hard for me to even express my feelings. Any outside perspective would be appreciated.
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