Relationship is more a friendship

[Curlylocks85]

So I'm in a relationship with a wonderful guy,he's sweet,caring,loving and truly a great person,problem is I'm not attracted to him at all . There's no spark or sexual chemistry and it breaks my heart that I feel this way as he's so good to me and he tells me endlessly that he loves me and I'm his world and I feel so guilty that I don't feel the same. I know deep down he's not the one for me but at the same time I love him to bits but I'm not in love with him,we get on so well,he makes me laugh and have a great time together but when it comes to the affection side or being physical I just hate it as I feel nothing I'm just numb. I can't break up with him as it will break his heart and I can't do that and I don't want to lose him as a friend,so I'm basically just in the relationship to keep him happy. Please help.

[Gloria]

I can't break up with him as it will break his heart and I can't do that and I don't want to lose him as a friend,so I'm basically just in the relationship to keep him happy.

I think you are being selfish, because you're in the relationship for what you gain and you don't love him. You are doing him more harm than good, because you are eventually going to breakup with him. So, why don't you do it early enough now that he isn't too emotionally invested in you.

[Drake]

You love him but not in love with him. You will be a wicked person if you keep leading him on, so it's best to tell him. This way, he will accept it and move on, also your friendship with him won't be broken. However, if you don't tell him, your relationship will end up badly and you will lose your friendship with him.

Take the right step today.

[Evangeline_allese]

Been here! Believe me. I felt like me and my guy were roommates. Suggestion.... try to spark things back up. Try something new, make an effort to see of there is something that still there. I was an inch away from calling it off with my guy because I felt exactly what you're feeling. It took a while, but I realize that it wasn't that the spark was gone.... we just had to find a new way to light it... a new way to communicate new chemistry. Not saying it will work... but it's worth a try.