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I’m 50ish. In good shape with at least avg looks. Divorced. No kids at home. Stable job. Good income.
Im introverted but popular at work. Just not a big drinker/partyer.
In my 20+ year marriage I was the less clingy of us. But in the years since my divorce I’ve found it difficult not to be the clingy type. I’m consciously aware of the importance of giving my partner space. I do not micromanage her wardrobe. I am not a bully type at all. I am consistently the one who is adjusting my schedule to meet hers.
My my current partner is in her early 30s. Claims I’m the love of her life and wants to marry me and have kids. I’m the one who is trying to take it a little slower. We’ve dated for 6 mo.
Currently its its a long distance relationship. She is in NYC.
She went out tonight on short notice with friends, people I only vaguely have heard about, to see a band at a bar. At 1am she called to let me know she was “alive” and headed to meet a different group - also essentially all John Does to me. Said she would let me know when she was getting in the cab to go home. It’s now 530 am in NYC. No word from her.
I haven’t called or texted at all. I won’t. Until midday tomorrow or so.
I am hurt. And worried. But I can consciously understand that she’s probably fine. My analytical side says: She got moderately drunk (she’s generally a responsible drinker) and her phone battery died. She got home. Plugged her phone in, and fell asleep.
The only thing I’ve asked of her is that she always let me know when she’s home safe.
It hurts me deeply that the night played out like this. But what hurts worse is that she will totally roll her eyes at me tomorrow.
I cant take it. I don’t know how to not come off as the clingy guy. I am that. I love a tight relationship. But she will make it out like I am being controlling. She won’t apologize. I will be the bad guy.
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Im introverted but popular at work. Just not a big drinker/partyer.
In my 20+ year marriage I was the less clingy of us. But in the years since my divorce I’ve found it difficult not to be the clingy type. I’m consciously aware of the importance of giving my partner space. I do not micromanage her wardrobe. I am not a bully type at all. I am consistently the one who is adjusting my schedule to meet hers.
My my current partner is in her early 30s. Claims I’m the love of her life and wants to marry me and have kids. I’m the one who is trying to take it a little slower. We’ve dated for 6 mo.
Currently its its a long distance relationship. She is in NYC.
She went out tonight on short notice with friends, people I only vaguely have heard about, to see a band at a bar. At 1am she called to let me know she was “alive” and headed to meet a different group - also essentially all John Does to me. Said she would let me know when she was getting in the cab to go home. It’s now 530 am in NYC. No word from her.
I haven’t called or texted at all. I won’t. Until midday tomorrow or so.
I am hurt. And worried. But I can consciously understand that she’s probably fine. My analytical side says: She got moderately drunk (she’s generally a responsible drinker) and her phone battery died. She got home. Plugged her phone in, and fell asleep.
The only thing I’ve asked of her is that she always let me know when she’s home safe.
It hurts me deeply that the night played out like this. But what hurts worse is that she will totally roll her eyes at me tomorrow.
I cant take it. I don’t know how to not come off as the clingy guy. I am that. I love a tight relationship. But she will make it out like I am being controlling. She won’t apologize. I will be the bad guy.
Help
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