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I was dating my boyfriend for three years and recently broke up with him. The last few months this weird fighting pattern had been intensifying and happening more frequently. I'll give you an example. He went to China with his two brothers last month. I asked him several times if they had met or hung out with girls (i assumed they would since they are traveling and these things happen). He assured me he had not which I found surprising. When he got home I noticed he was following a new girl on facebook that I didn't know when I asked who she was he said, "I met her on the trip." Naturally, I get angry because he obviously lied to me about meeting girls. This girl isn't his type by any means and not someone I would be worried about him being interested in but still strange to lie about. THEN he becomes furious at me for "not trusting him" and being dramatic. I explain it's not that I don't trust him, but it's concerning to me that he lied. He can't understand why that may be upsetting and turns the whole thing on me! This has been happening here and there throughout our realtionship. It would start with little things. Like, he would snap at me and I would say, "hey that wasn't very nice" and he would say, "well you shouldn't be offended because I didn't MEAN to be rude." But I think, well okay, but that doesn't change the fact that you just were. We would end up getting into the worst fights all about the smallest things because he could never simply say sorry and would get mad at me for not being able to look past whatever he had just said or did because it's never his intention to be hurtful. Has anyone experienced anything like this? I think it really messed my head up.
I was dating my boyfriend for three years and recently broke up with him. The last few months this weird fighting pattern had been intensifying and happening more frequently. I'll give you an example. He went to China with his two brothers last month. I asked him several times if they had met or hung out with girls (i assumed they would since they are traveling and these things happen). He assured me he had not which I found surprising. When he got home I noticed he was following a new girl on facebook that I didn't know when I asked who she was he said, "I met her on the trip." Naturally, I get angry because he obviously lied to me about meeting girls. This girl isn't his type by any means and not someone I would be worried about him being interested in but still strange to lie about. THEN he becomes furious at me for "not trusting him" and being dramatic. I explain it's not that I don't trust him, but it's concerning to me that he lied. He can't understand why that may be upsetting and turns the whole thing on me! This has been happening here and there throughout our realtionship. It would start with little things. Like, he would snap at me and I would say, "hey that wasn't very nice" and he would say, "well you shouldn't be offended because I didn't MEAN to be rude." But I think, well okay, but that doesn't change the fact that you just were. We would end up getting into the worst fights all about the smallest things because he could never simply say sorry and would get mad at me for not being able to look past whatever he had just said or did because it's never his intention to be hurtful. Has anyone experienced anything like this? I think it really messed my head up.
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