GF wants Cruise without Me

[Creed]

Would you be okay with your wife/husband or significant other going on cruise or other vacation without you? Here's my circumstances and it's complicated.

I am 46 and gf is 43, both divorced. My gf is a fitness instructor and has beautiful breast enhancements. She turns heads when she walks in a room. She is friendly to a fault and I have seen guys take her friendliness the wrong way.

Past History
We dated in college 25+ years ago and reconnected about a year and half ago. In college we were young and immature and my gf began to push me away. After several months of seemingly growing apart she told me she wanted a break. We still sort of saw each other. I ended up cheating and she dumped me for good. After we reconnected we were discussing our break up all those years ago. Memories are faded a bit but she admits she was scared about marrying me as I was her second bf and we started dating when she was 17. She said she wanted some time to explore and have fun. She admits to "kissing" several guys at college parties during our unofficial break.


Current Dilemma
My gf has a cousin that is late 20s and is in a weird marriage. The cousin has become close with my gf and texts/calls her constantly. Both of them act crazy when they are together as long as the cousin's husband is not around. The two went on a cruise right after we reconnected and acted crazy together on cruise. Nothing inappropriate, more just annoying other guests on occasion. It was during spring break and there were lots of drunk college kids. My gf says she was propositioned by a drunk college guy. She also said the guy who performs at the ship's piano bar was asking her out, following her around, flirting with her big time.

Now the cousin is BEGGING my gf to go on another cruise with just them two. Now I trust my gf 1000% but I am insecure by nature and get jealous easily. I hate the idea of guys pursuing her or flirting with her while I am not there. My gf has told me she just wants to travel with me. But this is the 3rd or 4th time she asked me or put feelers out about going on cruise with her cousin. I have told her the 4 of us can go on a cruise together and one person in a relationship shouldn't be excluded from a trip.

Thoughts?

[Clay]

I have told her the 4 of us can go on a cruise together and one person in a relationship shouldn't be excluded from a trip.

This is just the best thing to do. She isn't suppose to be with her cousin alone, you can never be too sure of what will happen. If she wants to go for the cruise, you and her cousin's husband must be present with them. That's what makes you both couples.

[Sofia]

Now I trust my gf 1000% but I am insecure by nature and get jealous easily

Since you trust your girlfriend, you shouldn't have any problem letting her go on the cruise. Learn to control your jealousy and not your partner, because this is the only way you can have a lasting relationship.

[Creed]

Since you trust your girlfriend, you shouldn't have any problem letting her go on the cruise. Learn to control your jealousy and not your partner, because this is the only way you can have a lasting relationship.

I do but I don't like the thought of guys propositioning her. You never know if a guy (especially drunk) will take things too far and put my gf in very uncomfortable position. A situation happened a couple months ago where a guy (not drunk) pulled over in her neighborhood to help her with her lawnmower. My gf was having trouble with mower and elderly neighbor lady came out to talk to her. The guy saw she was having issues and pulled over to help. My gf thanked him and knowing her friendly ways the guy took it as flirting. He asked her out and she said no but he was persistent and kept asking. She finally went inside. She said she was very uncomfortable. I have told her guys will take any friendly gesture or look as flirting.