How can you move on quickly?

[owen87]

My girlfriend broke up with me just five days ago and damn, it was painful and still is. I know it would sound gay and maybe for some, it would sound silly that I cry almost every time because of the pain she left me but yes, I do. She was the one I truly love all these years and she broke up with me saying loving me is not worth it. Am I really not that worthy of love? I begged for her to come back but she does not want to. Right now, I just want to get rid of this pain and move on.

[Unicorn365]

It's only been 5 days, it's still gonna be seriously raw and painful to think about. Give yourself time to move on and heal, there is no set way to get over someone quickly. Please just don't go out and have meaningless one night stands as a way to try and forget, it won't work. All you can do is keep busy and keep your mind occupied with other things- see your friends, go out walking, get chores done etc. It will get easier

[Jane]

Past is past.

When you look back at your childhood years, there must be an incident that you wish you should have reacted or behaved differently. But since you're not anymore in control of it, you fancied the time machine would bring you back in the past. The same thing goes with your breakup. When you opted to end the relationship, it became part of your past. Even if you wail hard or get wasted, the circumstance is already irreversible.

Win the battle.

The duel between you and your emotions will eventually occur after the breakup. Anguish is hard to manage so it's unsurprising that you'll be caught unprepared and draw back at the start. But when you're required to stand up for it, you'll be more aware of yourself as you undergo this tough situation. If you lose, you go to an asylum of regretful patients. If you win, you get to do the next phrase.

Exclaim "Carpe Diem".

"Carpe Diem" is the Latin phrase for "live in the present". After letting go of the past, live your life constructively. Take a bicycle ride, use a fish rod or strike the pins. Idolize Manny Pacquiao through punching bags or Mark Zuckerberg through developing social networking sites. Go to a restaurant, seek for spirituality and attend photography sessions. You can do plenty of things to hasten the process of getting over a breakup. The only question is, "Where will you start?"

Look right and left.

When your ex slammed the door, there's nothing wrong with throwing it wide again. Don't expect him or her to come back but certainly, people around you will check you out. Allot time for your family and buddies and reinforce your courage with their warmth. Isn't it consoling to know they'll always be there for you? Lovers arrive and leave but they will always be two steps behind you, no matter where you go.

Think of the future.

How? Stephen Covey stressed that the second rule of an effective person is, "Begin with an end in mind." Do you envision yourself putting your arms over another woman's shoulder? Can you picture out the scene when you see your ex with someone else but you feel no more ache? That's great! Your goals will influence your thoughts and behavior.

When you're done getting over a breakup, believe in magic again. As a song says, "It's the lover not the love who broke your heart last night. It's the lover not the dream that didn't work out right." If you just consider your heartbreaking experience as your teacher, you won't repeat your mistakes in the future.