No longer turned on by my partner?

[Unicorn365]

So I've been with my boyfriend on and off for 2 and a half years. Recently I've found that I've not really been getting turned on, like i don't get horny. He's very good in bed, I orgasm every time we have sex, but I don't find I ever actually get horny, I feel I can take or leave sex and am not too bothered. Even when I watch porn I don't really 'feel' much going on down there, I don't get horny. So I feel like it can't be because me and my partner are now lacking chemistry, because in general watching or thinking about sexual things doesn't turn me on. I don't know what to do because a few years ago I was the horniest person ever and got turned on really easily. I don't know if maybe familiarity just kills my sex drive? Because the idea of sleeping with strangers and having one night stands does turn me on, may be for whatever reason I find it hard to be horny for someone I know very well? I'm finding it very confusing as I still love my partner and am still very much attracted to him, I just can't remember the last time I actually got really horny. Can anyone offer some words of wisdom?

[Jane]

It's normal for you not to get horny as you used to before. The reason being that you weren't having sex often, but now that you have a boyfriend you have sex often. So, you won't feel horny because you know you can get sex anytime, whereas before you fantasize about it.

Therefore, the issue of you not getting turned on anymore is in your mind. What you should be concerned about now is if you still enjoy sex with him, and not about you getting horny. If you still enjoy sex with him, then don't always expect to be horny.

This happens to both men and women, especially when they have been with someone for a long time. Work on your mind, and you will start feeling horny again.

[Nicolas]

At this stage of your relationship, you aren't suppose to still be feeling horny. So, it's normal for you not to get turned on by your partner. Like any other thing in life, anything we get too much we get tired of it. This applies to sex as well, you have gotten much of it and so it doesn't excite you anymore.

However, if you want to get horny again, abstain from sex for at least 2 month. If you don't have sex for 2 month, you will definitely crave for it and become horny again.

Nevertheless, don't let this push you into cheating on your boyfriend because you will eventually regret your act.