Is this shy guy into me?

[Cokkie90]

I recently admitted an ex-colleague of mine that I like him.

He's the sweetest, nicest and most caring guy ever, but also extremely reserved, insecure and with low self-esteem, living in his own world.
Surprised and all awkward, he didn't know how to react but only said how he's 'emotionally crippled', isn't as brave as I am, and how I don't know him that well to understand what he's talking about. When I asked him does that mean he doesn't like me, his response was that that'd be the last thing he'd say, because I'm a great girl.
One of his philosophies is 'sticking to the ground, so you don't fall flat', which is cowardly to me.

Is he at all into me, or is that his way of softly rejecting me?

P.S. Also I didn't get the 'you're so much more braver than I am' part. What he meant by that?

[Realigned]

I have perhaps a better question...Do you really want to be with someone who won't actively make the effort to pursue you back? Active pursuit and effort are two very powerful qualities in any healthy relationship...Even after the first few dates ;-)
Food for thought.

[Ashley]

You can't tell now if he's truly into you. Wait for a few weeks and then watch how he treats you. The way he treats you from now onward will determine if he's into you.

[Clinton]

I don't think he has rejected you yet. However, don't bring up this issue with him again, and see if he talks about it. If he's into you, then he will make effort to pursue from now. So, if he doesn't pursue you and doesn't treat you specially from now on, then he isn't into you.

[Cokkie90]

I have perhaps a better question...Do you really want to be with someone who won't actively make the effort to pursue you back?

You're right. Guess I was hoping (and still kinda am), that if I 'come clean' about my feelings, it would be much easier for him, since he's so shy and all.
This is my first time dealing with a grown guy who's sooo insecure, but I know he's a good person which is why I want to be a little more patient.
Of course, if nothing happens, I'll forget all about it and move on.

[Cokkie90]

You can't tell now if he's truly into you. Wait for a few weeks and then watch how he treats you. The way he treats you from now onward will determine if he's into you.

Sure will. We don't see each other ever since I got a new job. But now that this happened, we'll see...

[Cokkie90]

I don't think he has rejected you yet. However, don't bring up this issue with him again, and see if he talks about it. If he's into you, then he will make effort to pursue from now. So, if he doesn't pursue you and doesn't treat you specially from now on, then he isn't into you.

I won't. I won't even text him first again (not after my gut-spill) and then feel like I'm chasing him or smth.
The thing is, we don't see each other at all ever since I got a new job, other than maybe once a month when we all (my ex-colleagues, him & I) have drinks in town. If I text him, he'd always reply, and we'd even talk for hours. It's his passiveness that's driving me nuts.