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Hi everyone, the brains trust of relationships! I hope! 
I have a challenge I was hoping to get some expert advice on, my partner (6 months) and I have been struggling in the past few days in context to lying. Basically here is the rundown; we came home from a trip away, she was very tired and wanted 'alone time' and asked I give her space, asking me to work from the lounge room. I put on the washing, and went and opened my laptop and worked for several hours, when I finished I noticed the dryer hadn't finished. So I watched a bit of Netflix (25 min), and then finished my to-do list for the next day and folded the dry washing. It was late (11:15pm) so I went to bed and found her asleep.
The following morning I woke to a question (within the first 60 sec of waking), 'What time did you finish working last night?" I said "around 11pm." Then she said "I came out last night at 10:30 and you were watching TV", I said yes and explained the above. She saw this as a Lie or ommission and felt I have betrayed her trust.
My personal thought was that I just generalised my initial statement, as I worked both before the tv and after. I saw it as a question as to when did I finish last night. She insists I take responsibility for purposely lying, I don't feel in my heart that I did. She says that's even worse as it shows subconsciously I hide things.....I don't know what to do....or think.
I have a challenge I was hoping to get some expert advice on, my partner (6 months) and I have been struggling in the past few days in context to lying. Basically here is the rundown; we came home from a trip away, she was very tired and wanted 'alone time' and asked I give her space, asking me to work from the lounge room. I put on the washing, and went and opened my laptop and worked for several hours, when I finished I noticed the dryer hadn't finished. So I watched a bit of Netflix (25 min), and then finished my to-do list for the next day and folded the dry washing. It was late (11:15pm) so I went to bed and found her asleep.
The following morning I woke to a question (within the first 60 sec of waking), 'What time did you finish working last night?" I said "around 11pm." Then she said "I came out last night at 10:30 and you were watching TV", I said yes and explained the above. She saw this as a Lie or ommission and felt I have betrayed her trust.
My personal thought was that I just generalised my initial statement, as I worked both before the tv and after. I saw it as a question as to when did I finish last night. She insists I take responsibility for purposely lying, I don't feel in my heart that I did. She says that's even worse as it shows subconsciously I hide things.....I don't know what to do....or think.
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