My Girlfriend and 2nd Cousin Doing Things In Secret

[Trucker12]

Okay here is my weird situation I'm 41 and my girl is 43 she has s 2nd cousin that's a male we been together almost 3 years. I never thought nothing bout anything til recently when I caught her deleting all her text to him and sll Facebook messages. So I got curious and hacked into her Facebook and she was telling him to come see her now at her job which she lied and told me he never been to. Caught her lying to me about him telling her something I said she denied he told her til I proved it. Caught her last week using code words to text him then listened to a call of her calling him telling him to change the secret code they have to hide stuff from me. So she gets mad at me for busting her and kicks me out told me she going to bed the next morning I show up with breakfast and his car is in driveway and they asleep on couch to which she lied and said she was in my bed. She made me leave and they stayed there together. They say I'm just being jealous and insecure please help what do I do

[Rachael]

I don't think she has anything to do with her cousin sexually, if that's what you're thinking. It's just her cousin and nothing more.

[John]

Her cousin is a family member, so they should obviously have secret family discussion. So, don't get mad at their hidden conversation.

[ArtDecade]

I don't see why she should be lying to you and hiding things unless they are doing something wrong. It seems like your wife and her cousin are having sexual relations. You should try to put a hidden camera on them and see for yourself. If she really is cheating on you, you should dump her ass. No one deserves that and no one should tolerate those things. Don't let her control you saying you're just jealous, because she is literally hiding things from you and that's wrong.