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I'm in my late 30s and really love my guy. We've been together awhile now and I'm still waiting on the ring. Just wondering if there are other ladies on here in the same situation.
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many guys feel "i getting the milk for free why buy the cow". does he know you want to be married to him? hold back on your affection until he proposes as you desire or go no contact till he makes the commitment. -
If, however, love does exist between you then what you can do is to nudge him to the right direction.
You cannot influence a guy to marry you by laying down an ultimatum.
It's understandable that you're no longer willing to wait if you've done so for a long time and your patience hadn't been rewarded. But you can't just go and lay down an ultimatum. Men generally hate having their hands forced and tend to react perversely about it.
You have to be more subtle than that. Rather, you should let your boyfriend or fiance know that a major change is imminent - one that could take you away from him permanently if he doesn't make a move. You could mention that since there are no definite marriage plans at the moment, you're thinking about working abroad or something similar.
You can influence a guy to marry you by giving him something to look forward to.
Many women make the mistake of withholding something in order to force their partners to give them a wedding ring. This may work on some guys, but it may certainly backfire when you use this ploy on others.
The safer thing to do is to give your boyfriend something to look forward to. Show him what he could have when he marries you. Give him a brief taste, if you will, and let him know - subtly - that there's more of it when you do get married. It could be something like preparing him breakfast on bed or being there to welcome him when he comes home after a hard day at work.
Just remember, though - give him a sample of - and not everything - you have to offer.
You cannot influence a guy to marry you by making him jealous.
In some situations, jealousy might work but it's a very dangerous emotion to play with. It's easy to lose sight of the objective and by making your partner jealous, you end up being unnecessarily cruel or hurtful.
Rather than making your partner jealous about a third party, why not make him envious instead of other people's marriages? Show him how happy married couples can be and let him know that such happiness is well within reach if he only makes the move to take it.
You can influence a guy to marry you by talking about it plainly.
In the end, subtlety might not work and you simply have to be frank about your desire to get married. Again, please understand that being honest about your feelings doesn't require you to place pressure on your partner.
It's sufficient that you just let the truth out and explain why you want to be married. Who knows? He might want to be married, too but thought you felt otherwise for one reason or another.
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