Body language

[starlight]

so this is kind of a general question, but if the person your withs feet doesn’t point towards you when they’re talking to you and they generally point their body away is that bad? You know they’re still kind of nervous around you but they’re always texting you and saying sweet things to you and are very considerate and dedicated to the relationship. Can it be just bc they haven’t gotten used to feeling comfortable around you?

[smackie9]

That's kinda vague. what's your ages, are you in school? what kind of dating experience do you both have? You two are just hanging out? What kind of physical contact have you had?

[starlight]

I'm 18, going to college, and he's 25 and has a job. We are in a relationship, this being my first one and he has had a few relationships before. We started out casually and have had sex sometimes but decided to make things more serious. Know him for a little over a year, been together since May I think but have just started seeing each other consistently (once a week, sometimes twice) due to difficult schedules.

[Mabel]

Obviously, that person isn't comfortable around you yet. So, it's your responsibility to make that person comfortable around you.

[richey]

clear sign of discomfort or non-interest - moreso non interest. When people "close themselves off to you" (aka turn away from you) - that is a sign they are.. well.. closing themslevs off from you - don't want to let you in.

An interested person faces you, "opens up to you" as a way to signal they want to let you in. The "nervous' part may be where they may cross their legs or scrunch their body down small-like or cover themselves (arms crossed say? arms in front covering their body). This means a bit shy. But as long as their body is pointed towards you it means they are interseted and its a matter of feeling more comfy with you to let you in.

very perceptive.. good for you.

oh wait.. i messed up. I actually read that a woman crossing her legs (in view) is actually a sign of interest as it is a subconscious way to say "look at my legs" - and not a closed off position. Similarly any motion or position to almost like "present" other parts of the body to you are signs of strong interest (like hands resting on the face is like a way to "present their face to you" like framing their face for you, etc.)

[starlight]

I know what body language indicates, and I know he's closing himself off. I also know that my guy has lots of trust issues and I just gotta work on making him more comfortable around me. I guess my question was could that behavior just indicate nervousness to open up for example. Not that he just doesn't care about me. Like maybe he's turning himself away because he's afraid to open up around me I don't know.