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TL;TD: My bf of 3 months still talks to his ex from a year ago which he briefly dated, that ex admitted to having feelings for him, how should i react and should i believe what my bf tells me?
Long story short, my first real relationship was 3 years ago and it was traumatizing, i got cheated on a lot and emotionally and mentally abused/manipulated. I’m bi and i met my current boyfriend 3 months ago and been very happy with him. His ex, a guy he dated very briefly a year ago and with whom he remained friends, talkin to each other ever since, told him that he still had feelings for him. I talked about it with my bf and how it made me feel and he asked me a lot of times what he could do to make me feel better about it, proposed that he stopped talking to him and is very comprehensive about it which is great. I feel that i compete against him now even tho he says it’s not the case. He never gets angry about it and is very open and transparent, proposes to show me the messages and so on. Although he makes a lot of efforts and isn’t someone that lies and certainly wouldn’t force himself to be with me as i’m not a replacement or some time passing in his eyes. But i can’t help but feel like somethings off, i generally have a lot of anxiety and am still traumatized by all the people that used to lie to me so i can’t figure out if there’s really a reason to worry and that he is truthful or if there’s a reason to stress. I often have irrational fears and see problems where their are none. What should i do? Anyone having a similar experience ? Every answer helps, thank yall
Long story short, my first real relationship was 3 years ago and it was traumatizing, i got cheated on a lot and emotionally and mentally abused/manipulated. I’m bi and i met my current boyfriend 3 months ago and been very happy with him. His ex, a guy he dated very briefly a year ago and with whom he remained friends, talkin to each other ever since, told him that he still had feelings for him. I talked about it with my bf and how it made me feel and he asked me a lot of times what he could do to make me feel better about it, proposed that he stopped talking to him and is very comprehensive about it which is great. I feel that i compete against him now even tho he says it’s not the case. He never gets angry about it and is very open and transparent, proposes to show me the messages and so on. Although he makes a lot of efforts and isn’t someone that lies and certainly wouldn’t force himself to be with me as i’m not a replacement or some time passing in his eyes. But i can’t help but feel like somethings off, i generally have a lot of anxiety and am still traumatized by all the people that used to lie to me so i can’t figure out if there’s really a reason to worry and that he is truthful or if there’s a reason to stress. I often have irrational fears and see problems where their are none. What should i do? Anyone having a similar experience ? Every answer helps, thank yall
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